Please tell me if this is tacky

December29_Brid · August 2011

We just got a wedding invite and it is addressed to 'Adam F(full last name) and family'. No mention of my name at all. Shouldn't it at least have said Mr and Mrs Adam F or Adam and Ally F? To top it off, this is a blood relative of Adam, first cousin. They know my name. I just think it was a horribly addressed invite and the wording made me feel left out. Am I crazy!

Mrs.Reem · August 2011

It's definitely not the proper way to address it but I'm finding that there are so many people out there that don't follow the "rules."

I constantly see notes about where the couple is registered in wedding invites, etc. and I'm just getting used to it. lol! (not that I'm excusing it or would do it myself but sadly it's becoming the new norm.)

smtaylor1 · August 2011

Hmm if I had to guess they had help addressing the envelopes and the person didn't know your name but knew Adam was married. So they addressed it that way. But its definitely not the proper way!!!

December29_Brid · August 2011

They definitely added a card for where they are registered. Also, they are printed labels...I guess I am just picky, but it looks bad too.

All-His · August 2011

Def tacky. I am kind of judgy about stuff like this. I hate anything having to do w/ registries in the invite to a wedding (to a shower is ok, although not preferred). Also, this sounds snotty, but I don't like it when people don't address formal invite w/ proper titles. Medical doctors should always be referred to as Dr. imho, they worked WAY to long to not earn that distinction.

Ashley&Scott · August 2011

Completely tacky.

Cygal · August 2011

Totally tacky!!

I had to do a ton of research when addressing our wedding invites because of all the weird things that come up. Of course, the knot was an awesome help...some people have no idea! )

bethbeth · August 2011

Definitely tacky! Seems like knowing how to formally address people is a lost art. Once I got a wedding invite addressed to me and only me. Sure, I was newly married, but she had my new last name down! It was only an invite for a reception because the wedding was elsewhere. The registry info was on the invitation itself. For some reason I can deal with registry info included better if it's on a separate card than the actual invite, like with the maps and hotel info or something. Hah!

Jennrs · August 2011

Wow. Glad I didn't have to send a wedding invite to any of you gals, I think I would've been on your sh*t lists. Although I had no intention of being tacky while addressing my wedding invites, I'm sure some may have been done improperly because, frankly, I didn't do a lot of research before addressing and sending them off. I'm a pretty informal gal, though. In fact, our entire wedding would've sent Ms. Manners into a tissy fit.

December29_Brid · August 2011

Jennrs:
Wow. Glad I didn't have to send a wedding invite to any of you gals, I think I would've been on your sh*t lists. Although I had no intention of being tacky while addressing my wedding invites, I'm sure some may have been done improperly because, frankly, I didn't do a lot of research before addressing and sending them off. I'm a pretty informal gal, though. In fact, our entire wedding would've sent Ms. Manners into a tissy fit.

I am the opposite if Ms. Manners, but in this situation there were a few things that bugged me 1) I married their cousin and I felt completely disregarded...they know my name. I addressed my invites with first names, but I had a very casual wedding and I found out everyone's name with correct spelling. 2) They obviously went for the formal look with all of this, but it was not reflected on the invite. They had 3 envelopes, very nicely written, very elegant look and then the way it was addressed did not flow. I am not picky about this stuff usually...it just bothered me that I was not included mostly...DH's mom hates me and this makes me feel like she talks bad about me to others and now they hate me

I swear I am not a bad person!

sydlc88 · August 2011

So I'm curious. If the registry information isn't supposed to be included in the wedding invite, and I think at least one post above said not to include it in a shower invite either, how do guests ever find out where you are registered so they can get you a gift you want? I am completely clueless about this kind of stuff so I love finding out how to do it properly for when I someday help with my sister's wedding/showers. Thanks!

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