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How much would this annoy you?

Let me tell you that I dislike this person already so I may think this is more annoying than it really is. 

H's friend's wife has become active with a specific charity.  She emails me (everyone in her contacts I think) asking for donations for this charity at least 5 times a month.  Sometimes she asks for specific amounts, and other times it is just any amount able to give.  I have NEVER given her any money.  I kept hoping that if I just didn't respond to the many emails she would give up.  She hasn't yet.  

I get so annoyed.  I want to email her back, and kindly ask her to stop emailing me.  I mentioned this to DH today, and he told me that he thinks that it is rude for me to do so.  

Re: How much would this annoy you?

  • 5X/month would drive me up a wall.

    I'd find a way to say you are unable to contribute at this time, and hope she lays off.

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  • Yeah, that's a little too much.  I could understand once a quarter, even once a month seems excessive...but 5 times, I'm sure you not the only recipient that this bothers.  Is she sending this as a personal email? Because if it's on behalf of a charity, they should have an "Opt out" link on the email.

    Unfortunetly, it's probably one of those things you just have to ignore, and just hit delete, delete, delete.

  • Yeah, that's incredibly annoying and inappropriate.  Personally I'd prefer to be up front: tell her you have the info on the organization, will consider donating when you are able, and please remove you from her solicitation list.

    Barring that...just block her Devil  Doesn't sound like you're friends anyway, so no big loss.

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  • I agree with this. I have asked several people to remove me from their group mailing lists. I hate e-mail, and I really hate spam e-mails... I even told an aunt and uncle to stop sending me forwards. (One was upset with me, the other totally got it...)

    I agree with just mentioning that you have the organizations info. and asking to please remove you from the list. When SO and I receive solicitations from charities we just mention that we have a few that we donate to on an annually and while we value the work that their charity is doing, we are not in the position to support other organizations at this time.

    Good luck.

  • Yup, that is way overboard.

    My Aunt is a breast cancer survivor, but she does events that require fundraising 3 times a year. So she literally does fundraising year round. There are months when she is hosting a dinner or auction or charity purse party every.single.weekend. And she gets all offended when we don't attend.

    It did get to the point where I had to say "I can only contribute so much! I support you and love the work you're doing, but we have other organizations we support, too!"

  • That is way too much.  You would be completely justified in letting her know that you are unable to contribute and to please stop emailing you so much about it.  I don't think she realizes that her approach is backfiring.
  • They are emails she sends out explaining why my donation of X today could help her with whatever.  They are generic, and I know she sends the same one out to what I presume is everyone on her email list.  My SIL gets them too so we are always talking about it.  It is really strange. 

    I dislike her very much anyways so DH says I am overly annoyed.  Ha ha ha.  

  • No, it's totally obnoxious, and I don't think you're being overly sensitive because of who it is. I would just reply to one of them and ask her to take you off her solicitation list. That's not rude in the slightest. Rude is harassing the same group of people 5 times per month about donations, IMO.  And I used to work in fundraising, so I should know!  :)
  • image5000CandlesInTheWind:
    I would just reply to one of them and ask her to take you off her solicitation list. That's not rude in the slightest. Rude is harassing the same group of people 5 times per month about donations, IMO. 

    This!  That is incredibly obnoxious.  

  • Well I am biased because I am one of the directors for a "charity" so this is my take.

    It's not appropriate for volunteers to request donations unless there is a specific event in which it is linked to. 

    This is why there are appointed chairs in orgs- usually there is an ED or a fundraising chair who is responsible for drafting letters/grants to send out requesting random donations. 

    So yeah, I'd be annoyed. 

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