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Baby shower for 16 year old daughter
I'm wondering if its tacky or bad etiquette for me to throw a baby shower for my pregnant 16 year old daughter. I don't want people to think I'm asking them to "support" her baby, but the reality is she needs all the help she can get. And I want to celebrate a new life... I mean while it's not ideal at her age, babies are fun and exciting and I want to celebrate that the way any other mother would with a daughter having a baby. So, should I just hope someone else volunteers, or should I go ahead and plan one?
My mom is planning to have one with just her family, so my aunts and cousins mostly. But I have other family and friends that would not be included in that.
What are your thought on this?
Married: October 11, 2008
Re: Baby shower for 16 year old daughter
On the whole, I think that showers shouldn't be thrown by parents of the honoree. If nobody steps up though... then maybe?
Hows that for clear as mud? :-P
I know etiquette technically says this isn't ok and some people might give it the side eye, but if there really isn't someone else to throw it it's probably fine.
Does she have any close friends that could 'host' the shower at your house? When I got married at 22 my BF didn't have a place to host my shower so she and my younger sisters hosted it at my mom's house...
All of that being said, I have been to a couple showers where the mother hosted the event (one a bridal, one a baby and all within the last 2 years) and I didn't think anything of it...
I never pay attention to that sort of thing when I get an invitation for a shower.
I think it's great that you are supportive of your daughter! According to the Emily Post website, it's not traditional for you to host but it is fine. http://www.emilypost.com/social-life/celebrations-through-life/462-welcoming-the-new-baby-with-a-baby-shower
Tired after a long morning of hiking and swimming.
I don't think it's appropriate to ask friends to throw the shower when they're in high school.
If you want to host the shower, go ahead and do it.
FOR SURE throw her a shower.. it's a "baby" shower.. not a "mommy" shower...the baby needs stuff and you love your daughter! .. It's still a happy time and if people cannot understand that they do not have to show up or bring a present! .. Let them decide.. You want to throw her a shower.. I think you should! ... the baby is still coming whether she's 16 or 26 !
go for it!
my mom and aunt hosted mine. no one cared. they were excited to celebrate a new life with me/us regardless of my age!
If anyone needs the support a shower provides, it's a young mom. I say shower away!
I agree.
You could ask some of her good friends if they'd like to help you plan it. Obviously you can't ask many 16yr olds for money or to bring food or something, but I think all around, everyone would like if they were involved. On the invites, you could include them as "shower given by BFF #1, BFF #2 and Mom"
You'll do most of the planning but they can help you shop and decorate and stuff. I think that would totally be acceptable.