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Vent... I feel bad - friend shower invite related

Sorry I think this might be long. GF of one of H's good friends used to be really close with me, but we had a falling out around my wedding because she expected to be included in my bridal party and didn't understand why she wasn't. Ever since then we haven't been able to recover. Plus I just don't get a long with her. It's fine. I accept her for who she is but I basically have broken up with her as a friend.

Today at my work shower (GF works with me too) one of my coworker friends that is invited to my friend shower was telling me how cool the invite was and was showing it around. Of course GF isn't invited because I just don't feel like sending her a pitty invite. She makes everything about her and is just loud. I don't want to invite her just because we have a ton of mutual friends. I just have guilt about it because I know it makes her sad.

Sorry I can explain more but I am short on time I just wanted to Vent.

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Re: Vent... I feel bad - friend shower invite related

  • That is a difficult situation, but I think especially for a shower, you don't invite people you aren't close to. 
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  • imagebabyaustin725:
    That is a difficult situation, but I think especially for a shower, you don't invite people you aren't close to. 

    ditto - I'm sure this is tough and awkward, but I don't think you should feel bad about it.  It really sucks because from her perspective she's 'always' being left out, but she's the one who made a big deal about not being a BM and effectively ended the friendship.  I hope you have a fun shower!

  • if you really aren't interested in being friends with her, then it is good that you're not pity inviting her. if you have any inkling that you could be friends in the future, this could be something that will be a major bummer!

    i think you're doing the right thing for you and that is all that matters. don't feel bad.

     

    p.s. what are you having? did you pick out a name?

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  • my question is why that friend was showing everyone your shower invite? i think she should've had more tact.....but oh well. you made the right decision by not pity-inviting her.
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    Thanks for helping me feel better guys.

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  • imagejennlin:
    my question is why that friend was showing everyone your shower invite? i think she should've had more tact.....but oh well. you made the right decision by not pity-inviting her.

    this is actually an even better question.

  • imagebabyaustin725:
    That is a difficult situation, but I think especially for a shower, you don't invite people you aren't close to. 

    imagejennlin:
    my question is why that friend was showing everyone your shower invite? i think she should've had more tact.....but oh well. you made the right decision by not pity-inviting her.

    That and that. For shizle. 

    As far as I'm concerned, if you're incubating a human being you can do pretty much whatever you want. Wink

  • imageuwhuskygirl:

    imagebabyaustin725:
    That is a difficult situation, but I think especially for a shower, you don't invite people you aren't close to. 

    imagejennlin:
    my question is why that friend was showing everyone your shower invite? i think she should've had more tact.....but oh well. you made the right decision by not pity-inviting her.

    That and that. For shizle. 

    As far as I'm concerned, if you're incubating a human being you can do pretty much whatever you want. Wink

    all of this.
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