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TTC vent
I know I don't post on here too often, I go in spurts, but I often check in...
We have only been TTC since like, April, so I know it hasn't been that long and others try for much longer, but this was my first month on Clomid, I had a very positive ultrasound, my doc was super positive that I would ovulate (but the home ovo tests continue to always be negative). The last week I've been had, what I thought, were pregnancy signs, but I started spotting last night and was so upset! A big part of why I am so mad is bc I'm usually very pessimistic, dh always has to tell me to be more optimistic about things, and the one time I allow myself to be, this happens. So anyway, sorry that I came on here only to vent, but I can't really totally explain how I'm feeling to dh, and you girls are always so great about "listening".
Re: TTC vent
Sorry you are having a hard time TTC - its not always easy for everyone so its okay to vent. My DS was a clomid baby so I totally get your frustrations. Are you charting along with taking the meds? I found that very useful and acutally my doctor wanted me to chart so that if the clomid wasn't working we could see what my cycles were doing. It was a long 6 months for us before we got that BFP we were hoping for, many mornings were spent crying on the drive to work.
Hang in there, and my only other piece of advice is to not stress about it and to just have fun with the trying part...After 6 months for us it was starting to feel like a job and sex wasn't fun anymore. The last month we were on the meds we decided that we had to much going to really give it (as they say) the old college try and just enjoyed each other and the couple times we did the deed and low and behold when we didn't stress and preasure ourselves it happened.
Jake blowing out the candle at Katie's coming home party
Katie Belle
Kristen, Chad, Jake, Katie & Sadie the Wonderdog, est. 6/17/06
It's hard to not get pregnant exactly when you want it when you're a type A plan everything to the last detail kind of person. You spend so much time and effort to prevent it for years, so when you stop preventing, it should happen immediately, right?!
I used the CBEFM and it still took me 5 cycles to get pregnant. I was sad and pissed off every month it didn't work. It felt like it would never happen (even though in hindsight it didn't take us that long at all).
Try not to psych yourself out with "pregnancy symptoms." A lot of women don't experience anything until around 6 weeks, long after you've gotten a positive HPT.
No offense to anyone who mentioned not to stress...but in 3 weeks will be a year since we started TTC and after 6 months of stressing, charting, and trying every extra thing(green tea, POM juice, etc) I just stopped it and decided the stress-free approach was the way to go and have for the last 6 months...and still nothing. So I wouldn't worry about stressing too much in regards to getting PG, but it does make your life a lot easier when that stress goes away.
Good luck, besides the Clomid, I do completely understand what you are going through.
Thanks everyone!! I knew posting was the right move :-) In response to Glitzyklm, I have been using First Response, but I've also used the target brand, as well as something I got from the clearance bin at shaws, haha, that was the first month I did one and didn't want to spend the money. I've learned my lesson! On the clomid this month, the two lines were closer to the same color than they ever have been, but definitely not darker like it's supposed to be.
After a few crying spells yesterday, I think I'm good today and ready to move forward. As long as my MIL doesn't drop anymore "ready to be a grandmother" hints anytime soon , I think I'll be ok ;-)(dh has 2 brothers, the married one says he's getting a vasectomy, the older one is engaged, but has been for like 4 years with no wedding in sight...) Thanks again ladies, makes me feel much better about things
LOL Oh goodness I feel you. My DH is the oldest by 7 years so we have the pressure to have the first grandkids too and I get those comments all the time!