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scared/anxious
So I'll try to make a long story short you all know I moved when ERP was 1 week old, I am now 3 1/2 hrs from Baton Rouge meaning I am 3 1/2 hrs from my ob/gyn I had SUCH a wonderful experience with him and he has been my one and only obgyn since I was 18. I really want him to deliver baby #2 plus I'd be way closer to all MY family. But it is a crazy long drive just to go to dr visits.
I made my first appt with him in hopes he would tell me I was out of my mind for thinking I didn't need to find a new doc closer to home. By closer I mean and 1hr and 15 min from my house is the closest dr here (boo)
I am absolutely TERRIFIED to change to a new doc especially with the new baby on the way and my track record of new docs here has been extremely dissapointing I have yet to find a good pediatrician!! Will begged me to give a doc here a "try" so I made an appt this wed to see my SIL's doc. I am having HUGE anxiety over all this am I being ridiculous? I just feel like one visit isn't going to tell me how he will be come delivery day... plus I will be almost 5 hours away from my entire family when I give birth and that thought kills me! The only pluses to being here is A) The Husband will be able to make most all appts (down south very few) 
I am closer to a hospital should I go into labor early and C) it will save me a lot of driving esp in the end
so again am I being ridiculous? what would you do?
Re: scared/anxious
I'm not really good at stepping out of my comfort zone at least I am aware of it which is a good thing. I guess I just have made a LOT of adjustments in the past 16mo and making another one is just hard! I'm glad I'm not alone in feeling that way, good luck with your move!!!
not all of them my MIL could keep her if I made day trips and my parents live an hour from there so most would be Fri appts so I could go in for the weekend (we drive down there every 2 to 3 weeks now and ERP is used to the drives!)
I don't trust other drivers so that would be my main concern, not the drive itself. Trusting and liking the doctor that delivers your child is very important. I would make a list of the pros and cons to both options and talk it over with your husband. What would he be more comfortable doing? Does he want to go to all/most of the appointments?
I hate going to doctors so I know how you feel about not wanting to change, but it might be in the best interest of ERP and your new little one. It is a tough call. Good luck!
His biggest concern is this, being on the road all the time!!!
FWIW My friend kept her doctor and when she miscarried she had to drive the long ass drive to her doctors hospital for her d & c. Not something that you want to have to drive 3 hours to do.
I would wait and see how the appointment goes on Wednesday. No reason to worry about it right now. You may feel much better about everything after that.
I, personally, would choose the closer doctor (unless something at the appointment strikes you as being really bad). I haven't been pregnant, but I couldn't imagine making that drive when you are not feeling well, are in pain, or just plain uncomfortable. The last thing I want to do when I'm not feeling my best is sit in a car for 3 1/2 hours, let alone have to be the one driving. You also never know how long labor can take and if you'd make it there in time. Or even stuff like false labor, or anything bothering you that you want to have checked out, that would be a lot of driving.
I would maybe keep your old doctor in mind in case you need a 2nd opinion about something.
Also, you family could come up and stay with you as it gets closer to your due date so you would have them around.
ITA.
Would your regular doctor even agree to this set up? Most doctors don't want you traveling more than an hour away when you are in your third trimester -- and this would literally mean he wouldn't want you going home. Are you going to stay down there your whole third tri?
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I agree with Krissy/Maria...get a doctor closer. I get that changing doctors is hard, I did it at 20 weeks with A, and it's not easy, but you need to do what is best for your family. It is wonderful that you MIL is able to take care of ERP, but I wouldn't want to put my anyone in charge of my kid so I could drive that far just so I didn't have to change docs.
Just a question-does wanting to go to your old doctor also have something to do with being closer to your family when you deliver? I know it is very very hard to be so far away from family with a baby (we are a 7+ hour flight away from all family) but I don't think it's worth the "risk" of driving 3+ hours during labor. The last thing you want to do is be trying to get to a doctor that far away in case of an emergency or fast labor; or try to go to a new hospital/practice in that instance. I'm sure they will trek the 5 hours to come see you and the new baby.
I realize I'm ridiculously late for this, but I can relate. My family is 9 hours away and Wyatt was born in the middle of a blizzard, so my mom didn't meet him until he was 4 months old when life settled down and the snow finally went away.
I know it sounds scary, but after I got used to the fact that they weren't going to be around it got easier, and it felt really nice knowing that I didn't NEED them there to do what I needed to.
ETA: about driving 3.5 hours one way... what if your water breaks at home? Mine did, and driving a half hour was bad enough. I cannot imagine driving for another 3 hours like that and having contractions. No matter how good your OB, that would make for a really bad experience IMO.