Family Matters
catmiss9
member
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Kid or adult?
DH has a 19 year old niece who has one child and another on the way. This Christmas, the family has decided to only buy for kids. MIL is insisting that niece is a kid and we should buy for her as well as her children. DH and I disagree...thoughts???
Re: Kid or adult?
She's an adult. She's 19, for one. And she has 2 kids. She is NOT a kid who gets presents.
And here's the thing- you and your MIL can disagree all you want. SHE can buy the niece a present. You don't have to.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Not a kid.
But it doesn't matter what we think, or what your MIL thinks. MIL can buy her all the gifts she wants. You absolutely do not have to, especially if you don't agree with her. Stop discussing the issue with MIL.
Adult
I agree - not a child.
Maybe you could toss the idea of a $5 or $10 gift limit if money is an issue - or maybe you could draw names at Thanksgiving and buy a present for the person whose name you had?
I would consider her a kid. She's from the generation of "kids" and presumably is in school and lives at home. Plus, with a new brother/sister on the way, it's cruel to not give her a gift on Christmas.
whoops - misread that, thought her dad had a baby on the way. I'd still get her something nominal. Christmas is supposed to be the time to be generous and give to those in need... even if her need might be condoms, I think it's the right thing to do.
74 books read in 2011
She's not a kid- but I'd get her children something. I presume that's your thought too.
In my family, for the longest time it was you're a kid until you get married.... but that had to change because it "took so long" for me to get married (I was 28)