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jennlin
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
**sarack**
question:: you've posted it on fbook before....and a mutual friend of ours posted it yesterday.... about women who complain about being pregnant.......
does this really happen?! of my fbook friends, i've only had one person who complained about being pregnant, but she complained about EVERYTHING, that i didn't really think anything of it.
but do enough of your friends do this that it warrants a fbook status about it? just wondering, since i've never really seen it.
FWIW, i hate being tired all the time, but i *love* the fact that i'm growing an itty bitty human. it's all worth it.
♥ bfp2 02/15/2012 ♥ edd 10/23/2013 ♥
♥ bfp1 06/14/2011 ♥ edd 02/22/2012 ♥
♥ baby jennlin born on 02/15/2012 ♥
who says you can only wear your wedding dress once?
honeymoon bio ♥ married bio ♥ planning bio
jumped ship to the new and improved nest. back to TB for baby boards.
♥ bfp1 06/14/2011 ♥ edd 02/22/2012 ♥
♥ baby jennlin born on 02/15/2012 ♥
who says you can only wear your wedding dress once?
honeymoon bio ♥ married bio ♥ planning bio
jumped ship to the new and improved nest. back to TB for baby boards.
Re: **sarack**
omg, yes it happens all the time. and since i know people who are having a hard time getting pregnant, it definitely warrants an fb status about it.
i know TONS of people who are pregnant, ranging from the age of 19-30s... most of them got pregnant on 'accident' and SOME of them shouldn't be having children at all. the problem i have with these people who got pregnant on 'accident' and aren't married or are now living off the state because they can't afford their pregnancy is that they complain about everything and they weren't even trying. AND, me and you are paying for them to be lazy a$$es and sit on FB all day and b!tch about being preg... there are SO many people in the world that can't have children and it is the worst thing to watch some one go through. it literally brings me to tears when i find out women can't have babies. can you imagine not being able to get pregnant?? especially if that is all you've ever really dreamt about?
it gets really old when a$$hole people who got KU on accident and will end up having a baby daddy get preg with twins and here some one married who has the money and time and knowledge to do it and can't..
i am not saying that only married people should have babies..i think anyone who has enough time and love to give to a baby. money is important too.. and i think anyone who wants to have a baby that plans on being on welfare should wait a bit... but if i went into details about some of the people i know or are fb friends with, you'd totally understand. i'm willing to tell you details in private.. lol.
i appreciate that you don't complain all the time. i'm sure being preg can get uncomfortable and tiring, but there is a time and place for everything. and it gets old when all you see out of some one is how much they hate being preg and can't wait to get it over with.
yes plz. you have like 30million ways to get a hold of me. choose your venue
♥ bfp1 06/14/2011 ♥ edd 02/22/2012 ♥
♥ baby jennlin born on 02/15/2012 ♥
who says you can only wear your wedding dress once?
honeymoon bio ♥ married bio ♥ planning bio
jumped ship to the new and improved nest. back to TB for baby boards.
I think complaining about pregnancy is fine, if it's in the same sort of "dose" as one would complain about other things. From what i hear, it's hard work, especially towards the end or if there are complications.
I'm going to play devil's advocate here.
I have a friend on FB who is disabled and walks with crutches. Should i avoid sharing about my hiking trips or should other friends avoid sharing about their races and triathalons because that rubs salt in his existing wounds?And regarding people who weren't intending to get pregnant that did, and are now miserable -- that makes perfect sense. They weren't looking forward to it, they aren't focused 100% on the result of the work and discomfort of pregnancy; it's a burden they were not seeking, and it's one they will have for the next few decades, at the shortest.
Best sound ever: baby's heartbeat! (Heard @ 10w1d)
yes fb is a public forum in which i can delete or block people as i want. i understand that if i don't like it, i can block it.. but that doesn't mean seeing it doesn't hurt any less.
yes, fb is a place where you can share whatever you want, which is why i am allowed to tell people how annoying it is.
we can go into examples of things that could hurt people all day long, i still say watch what you write, unless you want to hurt people. and that's your thing.
this is my opinion and that is yours. i respect yours but i don't agree with it. i believe people should share things, but there is a line that can be crossed very easily.
http://www.resolve.org/support-and-services/for-family--friends/infertility-etiquette.html
Sarack - I'm not sure why you thought i was attacking you. Perhaps there is (a lot) more to this story than you are sharing.
I was raising a valid point that i sincerely don't understand and looking to find out how you reconcile those two scenarios, and at what point you draw the line between one sharing his or her life experiences and moderating the sharing of those experiences for the sake of other people with different life stories.
"My thing" is not being insensitive on facebook. I'm really confused why you have gone this direction...Best sound ever: baby's heartbeat! (Heard @ 10w1d)
CD- There is a lot more to the story that I'm not sharing. It isn't my business to share. However, Jennlin asked if i thought this subject warranted a fb status and because I think it does, I answered accordingly.
My response wasn't only directed at you. Jennlin & message privately and she mentioned that FB is public and people can share whatever they want (something along these lines). That is something I agree with. It was just a general statement. That is also why I mentioned that this is precisely why I can post what I want too.
Your concern is a valid point to raise. Where do we draw the line at what details we share or omit on fb?? I'm sure each person has a different opinion of this. In my experience, many of my opinions are not always based solely on facts but also on how I feel about the situation. This subject in particular is especially emotional for me. That's why, IMO, I don't think that your case and mine are the same thing.
I can't tell people what to write on FB and have blocked many people that drive me crazy. BUT this is just one thing I'd like people to be wary about. Now people know it bugs me, whether they post it in the future is their call. But I can have an opinion about it. And if they don't like it, they can block me too.
Also, since it is a public forum, i think it is a perfect example of a place that you should censor yourself.
And that folks, is my 2cents!
While i agree that paralysis and infertility are very different, i have a hard time getting on board with the idea that it would be any less emotional an experience to become paralyzed than to struggle with infertility; both involve dealing with grief and loss.
That said, i apologize for jumping in uninformed; i didn't realize this post was part of a page/ongoing conversation (that's what i get for nesting from my tiny phone screen, i guess). Also, i agree that it's fine for you, me, and everyone else to have a different "line" placement; i wasn't questioning that, nor was i questioning whether people should be considerate of others/the public nature of their comments on FB. I genuinely feel the world would be a better place and more people would be much happier if everyone acted out of respect and consideration for others (including their individual experiences).
Yes, FB has a way of helping people reveal their idiosyncrasies.Best sound ever: baby's heartbeat! (Heard @ 10w1d)
thank you cd. yea it was kinda confusing. i appreciate you bringing up another side though because i didn't think about that. i do feel that you're right that the world would be a better place if people were respectful and considerate for others.
The conversation here seems to be over (that's what I get for not nesting during the day)....but jenn, yes....LOTS of people complain a LOT about being pregnant. It's one thing to mention it on occasion and/or on a bad day. It's another thing to make every. single. status update about how awful it is to be pregnant. I have one friend who complained that it took her a whole six months to get pregnant with #2. Once she got pregnant...she's been complaining almost daily since she was 7 weeks pregnant about how horrible it is to be pregnant.
For CDMay...you make a valid point. Honestly, if I had a paralyzed friend on FB, I would try to be a little sensitive about the regularity of my hiking posts. I know I have some friends who are sensitive about being unmarried and in their 30s...so I try to be careful with what I post about my marriage.
It's all about balance and being a little sensitive, especially if you know you have friends who would give anything to have what you have.
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♥ bfp1 06/14/2011 ♥ edd 02/22/2012 ♥
♥ baby jennlin born on 02/15/2012 ♥
who says you can only wear your wedding dress once?
honeymoon bio ♥ married bio ♥ planning bio
jumped ship to the new and improved nest. back to TB for baby boards.