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Married age *short poll*
Ok, leave aside the who military thing.
How young do you think is too young to get married?
How young were you when you got married?
Do you think looking back it was too young (even if you're 100% happy and have no regrets)?
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Re: Married age *short poll*
Looking at it now, anything under 22-23
I was 18 when we got married and H was 22.
Yes. I have no regrets about it whatsoever, but looking back it was definitely too young. Most 18 year old will not put in the work and effort marriage takes, I know I wasn't prepared for it. At all.
Ok, leave aside the who military thing.
How young do you think is too young to get married? Under 23ish?
How young were you when you got married? 21
Do you think looking back it was too young (even if you're 100% happy and have no regrets)? I think it would have done us good to wait
How young do you think is too young to get married?
I think anything under 23. Even if someone does not choose to go to college they still have a chance to work, pay bills and find out who they are as a person. I also look at this time as a time for change. I know for myself that I changed so much between 18-23 and I am not even the same person I was then. I am not saying that people who get married younger will not last, I just think that depends on the person however, I think it is good to wait and not go from living with your parents to living with a spouse.
How young were you when you got married?
I was 35, although I have thought this entire year that I was 34. HAA not sure what happened with the year.
Do you think looking back it was too young (even if you're 100% happy and have no regrets)?
I think that was a good age for me. I wanted to do a lot of things before I got married. I also needed to find out who I was as a person before I could share my life with someone else. I also didn't meet anyone that I could see spending the rest of my life with until I met the H.
Ok, leave aside the who military thing.
How young do you think is too young to get married?
23 and younger
How young were you when you got married?
20 the first time, will be less than a month from 27 this time.
Do you think looking back it was too young (even if you're 100% happy and have no regrets)?
YES. Not this time though, lol.
I was not young when I married my DH--I was 34 (he was 32).
In a perfect world, I would like to have gotten married closer to 30, but I didn't meet my DH until I was 34. I vaue my days as a single woman. I know that when my DH deploys or goes TDY, I can manage on my own just fine. I know that I'm with my DH because I want to be, not because I have to be.
How young do you think is too young to get married? You shouldn't have to get your parent to sign a permission form.
How young were you when you got married? 19. H was 21.
Do you think looking back it was too young (even if you're 100% happy and have no regrets)? Yes. I still think I would have married H, but if I knew everything I knew now I would have waited longer. If we had both had more time to mature it would have saved us a lot of drama during the first year of marriage.
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How young do you think is too young to get married?I think you should have some form of a higher education under your belt; whether that be a certificate, a 2 yr or 4 yr degree, just something that will allow you to support yourself.
How young were you when you got married?I was married the day after I turned 25.
Do you think looking back it was too young (even if you're 100% happy and have no regrets)? No, I'm happy with my decision. I had earned a degree, had a stable job, had lived on my own, traveled a bit.
How young do you think is too young to get married? I think anything under 22ish...
How young were you when you got married? I was 25
Do you think looking back it was too young (even if you're 100% happy and have no regrets)? No regrets at all- although I never in a million years thought I would be married at 25. I always thought I would be around 28
How young do you think is too young to get married? I think it really depends on the people and the situation...but in general I'd say under 22. Get your degree/career, live your own life for a little while and know who YOU are before you join your life with someone else.
How young were you when you got married? 32
Do you think looking back it was too young (even if you're 100% happy and have no regrets)? Definitely not too young, lol.
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How young do you think is too young to get married? Anything below about 23.
How young were you when you got married?26
Do you think looking back it was too young (even if you're 100% happy and have no regrets)? I don't think it was too young to be married, like another poster had said I got my Masters, traveled, and lived on my own.
How young do you think is too young to get married? I think you need some life experience after high school under your belt, whatever that experience may be.
How young were you when you got married? 29
Do you think looking back it was too young (even if you're 100% happy and have no regrets)? No, haha. 29 isn't really considered young. (I work in an elementary school with older women- they reminded me everyday) I am glad I waited to get married. I can't imagine being married when I was younger. I am a much different person now than I was at age 25/26 let alone 18/19/20.
I was 23 when we got married and felt WAAAAYYYY too young. And I had a lot of emotional baggage to break through as well. I for sure wasn't ready to be married. I love my H so much, and I don't know where I would be without him. But we both agree that we rushed into it.
I want my kids to be out of college and holding down a decent job, paying their own bills and learning what they like/dont like alone before they decide to find someone who will fit into their lives. If it takes until they turn 30 then great.
How young do you think is too young to get married? 23ish and under. Most people graduate college at 22, get their own place start working etc. I think it's good to do that stuff and spend time being young, working and having fun before you settle down.
How young were you when you got married? 24
Do you think looking back it was too young (even if you're 100% happy and have no regrets)? Yep. Of course I don't regret it at all but 24 is very young. I'm now of the opinion that 26 and up is a good marrying age.
How young do you think is too young to get married? anything under 22-23. I also think you should live alone and supprt yourself before you get married.
How young were you when you got married? 3 months from being 23. H was 26. I had finished college and lived on my own. We had been together 4 years and through a lot (i.e. deaths, casually dating not serious for all of that, all his training and his 1st deployment)
Do you think looking back it was too young (even if you're 100% happy and have no regrets)? Yes. I am extremely happy but i still think that it was to young.
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How young do you think is too young to get married?
Anything under 21-22. Obviously that can and will vary depending on the situation and individuals.
How young were you when you got married?
24, both of us.
Do you think looking back it was too young (even if you're 100% happy and have no regrets)?
Not for us. We each had requirements for where we felt we needed to be in life before we got married, and we waited until each of us had met our requirements. Ours were largely job, education and career based.
How young do you think is too young to get married? Meh, 16..17.. maybe 18
How young were you when you got married? 20
Do you think looking back it was too young (even if you're 100% happy and have no regrets)? No. I have a close friend who I would say is still not ready at 25, but I have several other friends that got married at about the same time as me (20-24) and don't think they were too young.
Of course that makes me kind of a hypocrite since h was a month shy of 25 (I turned 26 on my wedding day)
I would have waited a couple years if we weren't facing an intl pcs. Seriously, h's boss told him to go to the courthouse bc we likely wouldn't maker it to our wedding, and being married before orders arrived would be easier. I wasn't in a rush. No regrets though.
How young do you think is too young to get married? 21ish.
How young were you when you got married? 23
Do you think looking back it was too young (even if you're 100% happy and have no regrets)? It felt young. We probably could have waited, but it was good timing for us. We were both done with college, and my job contract and lease was going to be up a month before he was moving to his first training location.
Ok, leave aside the who military thing.
How young do you think is too young to get married? IDK, probably I will say before you have graduated college or have about equal time of life experience- so about 23ish? but that could age could go up or down (but not too far down) with individuals.
How young were you when you got married? just barely shy of 26
Do you think looking back it was too young (even if you're 100% happy and have no regrets)? no I was not too young, I was about 2 months shy of my MA, had lived on my own for several years (after college). Although maturity wise, I dont think I have really changed all that much. I am basically the same as I was at 18 (not to get into that whole debate about "having to grow up early"). I am super glad I was mature enough to realize I shouldnt get married at 18 though. lol that boyfriend is ... not doing great... shall we say.
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How young do you think is too young to get married? 21
How young were you when you got married? 21
Do you think looking back it was too young (even if you're 100% happy and have no regrets)? I cringe when I think about the fact that I was 21 when I got married. I cringe even more when I think about the fact that I got engaged at 19. We've been married 6 years now, and I'm very happy, but I wish we had waited until 23 or 24. Luckily, we did at least wait until I was 25 to have DS.
I don't have a set age-- it depends on the person. It really does. But I think anything before 20, I'd give a side-eye, for sure.
That said, I was 20 when we JOP'd, 21 when we had our big ceremony for the family. I always say I was 21 because honestly, that's the anniversary we celebrate, so I tend to forget we got married before! Ugh, that makes me sound terrible. It's a long story, though, lol.
I think that, looking back, we were probably a little too young. Maybe not "young" as much as "unprepared". We'd been together for five years when we were married, we were both very mature and no one who knew the two of us even blinked an eye when we were engaged. But after a few years of marriage, I've realized there were certain things we should have discussed beforehand. Premarital counseling would've been a good idea, in order to learn how to communicate, things of that nature. But being young and naive, I was soooo sure we'd be fine! Boy was I wrong, ha! We are very happy, but we are also very different people than when we first got together or even got married, and it hasn't always been a perfect ride!
How young do you think is too young to get married? I think it depends
How young were you when you got married? 22
Do you think looking back it was too young (even if you're 100% happy and have no regrets)?
Nope. I had graduated and knew what it was like to live on my own. I had also worked some kickass jobs that most 20-21 year olds don't get. H and I lived together a year before we got married too.
How young do you think is too young to get married? When I was in college for my first degree, I thought anyone still working on their degree was too young. Unfortunately, I know girls who dropped out because of getting married and moving with the Army.
How young were you when you got married? 22, just a few months before turning 23.
Do you think looking back it was too young (even if you're 100% happy and have no regrets)? I'm a newlywed so I don't feel like I can answer this objectively. However, I graduated college at 21 and then entered into nursing school. I've lived on my own for a year and DH deployed right after we were married. I feel like we won't get to start a FULL married life until he gets back, when I'm about to turn 24 and have graduated...again. In the meantime, I have been managing his paycheck and all budgets/bills.Photo bomb, yeah!