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Toddler tantrums...
...are so much fun! Oye. Let me preface this my saying that Austin has never been a cry baby. The
kid has really only ever cried if he's fallen or something and even then
he will cry for 30 seconds and be over it. Lately though, mostly due to
being over tired by the evening, he's been having full blown meltdowns
over the littlest things if he is told not to do something. Like real
tears, will cry for 5 minutes or more, etc etc. So, I know I'm supposed
to ignore, but I feel TERRIBLE just letting him cry like that, probably
because I'm really not used to seeing him so upset!! Is ignoring really the
right thing to do? After he gets in trouble, I try to calmly say to him
"Austin, we don't pull on the lamp, you can get hurt if you do that and
mommy doesn't want you to get hurt!" Which makes him cry even more. I
hate it. So what do you do in the middle of a major hysterical meltdown
to help them get through it?? This toddler shiiit is intense.
Re: Toddler tantrums...
Evan can throw tantrums with the best of them. Last night it was because he didn't want ice with his water. As long as he's safe, I ignore it. There are instances where I can try to talk to him but if he's in the middle of a freakout, I have to ignore him. Luckily he'll usually just throw himself on the couch and bury his head. It's hard not to laugh sometimes
He gets over it pretty quick and we move on like it didn't happen. If he's doing something that can hurt him, we talk or do a time out followed by a talk. He's pretty good at stopping those things if I tell him he could get "owies" and "boo boos" by that specific action. If he doesn't listen, he goes in timeout for 1 minute. Usually when he doesnt' listen it's because he's overly tired or is looking for a rise out of us.
I can't wait for the 3's.....
love is for every her, love is for every him, love is for everyone
For me, ignoring is the absolute hardest thing to do - mostly because I just want to scream, at the top of my lungs, "STFUUUUUUUUUUUU!" (Who has anger issues?
BUT, if it's a true tantrum, ignoring is, by far, the most effective for us. It's when I do lose my shyt that it gets even worse. Lately, the whole, "If you're going to scream/cry/throw a fit, go to your room/another room because I don't want to hear it," has worked, too. 9 times out of 10 he'll come back after his fit and apologize for actin' a fool.
When all else fails, I tell him if he can't get ahold of himself, he'll go to time-out. That works, too.
If he's just whining over something he can't have or I didn't do something "right" or before the tantrum begins, I'll get down to his level and say, "Jack, listen, I understand you're mad/sad (identify feeling) about _______________, but this is the way it is (or fill in the blank here). So, you may either have _____________ or ___________. What is your decision/choice?"
It is no joke. This morning, I found a video from when he was about 15 months and he was a little ANGEL. It's like it's not even the same child.
UGH don't even say that. It makes me sick thinking about how much worse this is going to get. And then to think about having to do this alll over again with another kid...Shiiiit. When he was a baby everyone would always say "It gets easier, don't worry". Ummm NO! It gets harder everyday, IMO. That baby stuff was CAKE compared to this shiiit. Luckily for him (& us I guess)... the good moments outweigh the bad....most days! LOL!
LOL! Oops! I didn't even see he's only 18 months. For the record, I do think the period between about 18 months and 2 1/2 was the easiest.
And you're totally right, the good does outweigh the bad. Hearing those little feet pound the floor this morning with a "Gooooooooooooooooood morrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrniiiiiiiiiiiiiiiinggggggg, Mooooooooooooooooooooom!" was awesome.
Hang in there; we're all going through the same thing. Oh, but if you're not, we don't wanna hear about it!
I can not wait for full-blown toddler tantrums! [/sarcasm] DS2 looks to be showing the most promise. DS1 whines, but DS2 has started balling up his fists and folding himself in half on the ground if I take something away.
Hopefully the tantrums come around the same time they start to understand a little bit more. Right now, it's just HE STOLE THAT FROM ME AND I'M PISSED!
Yes! When I get mad it escalates tenfold. Talking on his level is another one. We're starting to be able to talk to him and explain why things are happening, etc. He's getting a lot more vocal now which helps too.
love is for every her, love is for every him, love is for everyone
Ugh. I want a girl. Boys are so much more rough/physical, IMO. Evan will hit me if I touch him while he's freaking out. Once he's calmed down he's all hugs and kisses.
love is for every her, love is for every him, love is for everyone
Ha! Exact opposite in my house. My son is much more tractable; my daughter will scream, kick at me, try to slap my face, etc. She's like a feral cat and there's NO redirecting this kid.
Yep, re-directing worked well for us when he was two.
It's on a whooooooooooole new level now.
Ugh...we just started the BIG not listening within the past 6 months or so. I'm not going to lie...I'm FREAKING OUT that we are going to get kicked out of preschool. Lord help me.
I have tried the you can do _____ or you can do _____, you choose. No dice in our house. I think that I need super nanny.
I am about to find a new home for A. She is ridiculous!
She was fine until she hit 2. Seriously, she was the most amazing baby. So sweet! From 2 up until now, she has been utterly ridiculous. She throws tantrums, screams, slams her door, kicks her wall, destroys her room. Its like she is 3 going on 13.
DH won't even commit 100% to having a 3rd because he says he can't handle this. He gets so upset with her.
This morning she dumped a bag of cheese all over the living room. When I asked her why she did it, she said "I don't know. My hand just felt like doing something". WTF?