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Is my MIL clueless? (I'm bored....)
So if you read/have read my previous posts you know my MIL/SIL are BFF?s and I?m not in the circle. Fine, working on it, moving on?whatever, whatever. I?m nice and polite and hold conversations when I?m with them (few and far between).
Last night DH tells me that MIL has invited us over for dinner at BIL/SIL?s house. MIL will be house-sitting while BIL/SIL are away on vacation. This is DH?s family (Mom and Brother) and my inclination and current plan is to follow his lead.
My concern, knowing how SIL feels about me, would she want me to be at her house while she is away?
Role reversal - if it was my mom at my house and my sister brought over Tool #3?..I wouldn?t be thrilled about it but they are there to visit my mom and I wouldn?t want her to be bored. (I?d be hiding all alcohol for sure!)
I still feel weird ? I don?t want/need to give SIL anymore reasons to not like me.
What would you do?
1. Follow DH?s lead (my plan) and go and hang out w/MIL.
2. Same as #1 but take TONS of pics of DD playing at SIL/BIL?s and post all over FB to let SIL know we were there (hehehe ? passive aggressive anyone?)
3. Tell DH his mom is losing it to even think of inviting us over and invite her to our place instead? (concern would be her driving at night).
4. Fake illness day of dinner
5. Let DH and DD go alone and take a nap
Re: Is my MIL clueless? (I'm bored....)
FET - transferred two embryos (boy and girl) - Nov 2014 - BFP!
My assumption is that when SIL is out of town, her son and DIL are better than sitting home alone. Not the biggest compliment out there, but at least she is making an effort. And your SIL doesn't hate you - she just isn't interested in hanging out with you.
If H is ok with it, I'd go with option #1. It's really the only mature option you put out there. Plus, if you did #s 3-5, you really can't throw back in your MILs face that she always says she wishes you were closer, but she never follows through.
From your previous posts, I don't think your SIL hates you; it's your insecurities making you think that. Just because your SIL and MIL are best buds doesn't mean that you're a pariah.
Do #1.
I'd go with #2 or 5- something about this seems really odd to me. Why would she not just invite you over to her own home a different day. Plus you know she doesnt really want to be around you so why bother at this point.
Definitely dont do #2
Thanks for all the responses...work has been crazy etc. etc.
As it turns out, MIL isn't house-sitting anymore so no problem.
And MIL has decided to go do something with one of her nieces instead.