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okay or not so good etiquette ?
Just wondering...
We're invited to a first birthday party. It's a covered dish/potluck party. We were asked what we wanted to bring.
I've never heard of being asked to bring a dish to someone's birthday party. It's not just us...all the guests are asked to bring something. Is this typical?
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Re: okay or not so good etiquette ?
not great etiquette, hosts are to provide all
I did recently go a, well it's complicated, let's say birthday party that was potluck.
I had more typed, but it really is too hard to follow.
Bring a dish and enjoy!
I think it's ridiculous to expect other people to bring dishes to your party, but other families have different "rules."
When we invited people to DD's birthday party, all of DH's relatives asked "what should I bring?" Uh, nothing -- I'm hosting the party!
Whenever DH's parents have a get-together for all us "kids" we're all expected to bring a side dish to share and his mom provides the main dish.
Growing up, we always brought something to family/friends bday parties, and was taught to always ask what to bring, I dont' know, maybe its a maine thing (or a county thing, haha)?? I recently was invited to a bbq party thing and insisted on bringing something and the hostess finally said if I wanted to, I could. And when I got there her spread was so large, I literally didn't have anywhere to put my fruit and dip! haha, I learned my lesson that not every party is a "bring something" event. So, that being said, I don't think it's strange, but it's how I grew up
Must be a Maine thing, because, I grew up in the country in NY, and I think it's rude to ask someone to bring something to an event where a guest is expected also to bring a gift (birthday party, shower, wedding, etc). I think if it was just a regular BBQ or something, it's fine to ask people to bring something. If I'm buying your kid a gift for their bday party or whatever, I shouldn't also have to provide food.
I think if someone is hosting a kids bday party and can't afford to provide a ton of food for guests it's less rude to just have a mid afternoon party with cake, snacks, drinks than to ask guests to bring a dish. That's what my parents always did when we were kids. People wouldn't normally expect a big meal at a bday party if it's from like 2-4 or something.
My whole bar was cash
, but there was free champagne/cider offered at the bar.
I'd have to agree that the county has a completely different etiquette book. When I told my dad that I was insisting on an open bar for our wedding, he looked at me like I grew three heads (he thought BYOB). The typical is everyone contributes something for get togethers.
We can go to hell together.
At least I didn't have to sell my firstborn to pay a bar tab.
lol! love this!
I have never heard of that and thinks it's pretty poor etiquette. It's one thing if people decide together to have a potluck, but to invite someone over and say, "please bring food" seems pretty bold. We don't even do that when we have friends over. Although people usually bring something - its like, no one wants to show up empty-handed, but I would never ask "could you please bring a dessert" unless they say "what can I bring?" Ok, I am totally rambling :P
At least with a cash bar, you have the choice of whether or not you want to buy a drink (not that I think there is anything wrong with a cash bar).
Yeah, that definitely seems odd to me...but I come from a place where you would be flamed for having a cash bar...not that there's anything wrong with that
For a birthday party, I would say hosts provide all...although, as the family baker, I generally offered or was politely asked to bring a cake, which I was always happy to do...unless it's a general gathering or a holiday, in which case my family (and friends, too) had more of a potluck...host provided main dish and a few sides/desserts/apps and every family/couple that attended brought some type of additional dish...of course, we always had way too much food...