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Anyone sad to sell their house?
We closed on the house we recently moved from this morning. We've actually been moved out and living in our current house for a few months now, so it's not like I was sleeping in this house last night and tonight I'm not. I absolutely love our new house, but am still so sad to be completely out of our previous house. After we finished the walkthrough last night with the buyers and they had left the house, I start sobbing, like uncontrollably sobbing (so much so that DH kept telling me to breathe). It's not like I wish we were still in that house or that I regret moving - it wasn't technically even my house! DH bought it and after we had been together for awhile, I moved in. I just feel like we have so many wonderful memories in that house and now it's not ours anymore. I also cried again in the car after we left the office where the settlement occurred. I feel like such a sap!
Please tell me someone out there had a similar experience when selling their house, so I don't feel like I've totally lost my mind!
Re: Anyone sad to sell their house?
Not at the moment- I am so frustrated with the selling process- but I know when we do actually leave for the last time I will be so sad.
I owned that house on my own (before DH) and have so many memories. I was so proud of myself for buying it on my own. Not only is it in a trendier area than our new, larger, but very "suburban" home, but it was where DH and I had our first kiss, lived together, planned our wedding,etc.
It was also the site of many family gatherings and holiday dinners including my parents who are both now deceased. I'm so sad they won't get to see our new place, and I know they both would be so happy with all the improvements we made to our old house.
Now- sentiments aside- I wish the darn thing would SELL!!!!
I wasn't really sad. I moved into DH's house two years after we started dating, and then we lived there together for two. It was a nice house, but we upgraded to a much nicer, larger home, so I was excited to get out.
BUT, when we shut the garage for the last time, I lost it. It was definitely bittersweet. I think I was so excited to buy a home together, that I didn't think about all the memories we had created in our house, until we were ready to leave. But, now I'm excited to make the memories in this house!
oh yes!! I posted about it a few weeks ago (of course, at the time, my emotions were a mess because my father announced he was selling our family home . . . but still, I was intially very upset only because of selling MY home/condo). .
We never expected to sell as quickly as we did so when the offer came through and we accepted, I actually sat down and just blankly stared at DH. I couldn't figure out what I was supposed to be feeling. I didn't really feel relief, or joy - I had so many emotions - but mainly I was realizing everything we were losing (as opposed to what we were gaining). Losing a beautiful golf-course view, losing a great convenient location, losing losing losing . . . .
I bought my tiny condo by myself - before even meeting DH - and I never imagined living there with another person (let alone my musician husband), but in the 6 years since he moved in, we have made it "OUR HOME" and while the space is tight, we do love it. Leaving it next week will be incredibly hard - especially since we are temporarily moving into an apartment, that while bigger overall, has a smaller kitchen, horrible view, less convenient location, less features,etc.
I have to keep reminding myself that letting go of the condo is a necessary step towards owning a bigger/better home - a home where we'll make new memories and have many more celebrations and milestones - a home where we will hopefully start a family. I have to keep reminding myself that the new apartment is only for the next 6-9 months and then hopefully, if everything lines up, we'll be able to buy a wonderful HOUSE.
I think if we were moving directly into a house and not into a temporary apartment, it would be easier, but I'd still be sad to leave our condo. It is such a lovely little place - so cozy and sweet and I have loved living there and making it "mine" (then "ours"). I even tried to get my in-laws to buy it - and they would have except that they live overseas and already have homes in 2 countries. Adding a 3rd would only happen if it was a lake cabin - so my little city-condo was not an option.
Oh well, I tried!
In short - YES. I think it is very normal and very common to be sad when selling/moving. Whatever problems the house may have had, it was your home and as such, it holds a lot of emotional and sentimental value. I think it is perfectly OK to allow yourself some tears and mixed emotions - but it is also important to remember that this is simply a step toward something better (hopefully!).