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Happy Friday!
What are your plans this weekend?
Any highlights this week?
Any lowlights?
Any FFC's/vents/comments?
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What are your plans this weekend? Dinner tomorrow night with DH's fam for his birthday, then visiting a friend and her new baby on Sunday!!
Any highlights this week? Not really
Any lowlights? Going back to work
Any FFC's/vents/comments? I did not obsess over leaving LO at daycare this week. I cried on the first day, and I called once to check on him, but that's all. I know he's doing fine at daycare and it makes me appreciate the time I get to spend with him even more. I *want* him to be in daycare and it seems like that's not a very popular view, but maybe I'm getting a skewed perspective from being on TB. Also, it's not because I really want to work or have a career or crave adult interaction. It's because I think it will be good for DS to have that interaction and environment with other children and adults.
No offense to anyone because I know this view is in conflict with a lot of people's views, but I do not understand "wanting mommy" in the delivery room with you when you're giving birth. I didn't want/need my mommy there when I conceived my child, why would I want/need her there when I deliver him? I just thought that this part was a very intimate part of the whole process and it was just for DH and I. I have been talking to someone recently about this and we obviously disagree because she keeps saying she thinks she'll be scared and want her mom and I wonder what her husband will be doing. This annoyance also extends to after the baby is born and some people want to have their moms help them at home with the baby rather than their husbands.
BFP#1: 01/10, M/C 6w -- BFP#2: 06/10, M/C 5w -- BFP#3: 09/10, DS born June 1, 2011
BFP#4: 07/12, M/C 5w3d -- BFP#5: 12/12, EDD 08/18/13
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ITA! There are days when it sucks, but overall, I think daycare is an overwelmingly positive experience for her and us.
What are your plans this weekend?
Granite shopping tomorrow and maybe pick a sink - woot, woot!
Any highlights this week?
My Chipotle was pretty good yesterday and potty training seems to be going really well (these are sad highlights)
Any lowlights?
My parents had to put their dog to sleep earlier this week. It was time and she was old and sick, but it made me sad for them and her
Any FFC's/vents/comments?
Re the ongoing kitchen renovation - we are making progress, but I fear DH is becoming too comfortable with our temporary kitchen. He actually planned and made real meals this week. They are fine, but I'm afraid if he gets too comfortable like this, progress will stall.
What are your plans this weekend?
Tonight: Horses
Tomorrow: My Mom and I are taking the dogs to check out a new park and DH and I might go out for a friend's birthday depending on when he gets back from a crab feast.
Any highlights this week? DH made awesome cheesesteaks last night.
Any lowlights? Not liking the shrinking daylight hours. It's cutting short my time at the park in the morning.
Any FFC's/vents/comments? Same old vent for me - wishing we would hear good news about the short sale house we have an offer on. I'm really getting sick of relatives and IL's asking about it. D'uh - obviously we'll tell you when we have news.I agree with both of these. I didn't want my mom in the delivery room - only DH & the nurse/midwives. My mom didn't help make the baby. Plus, she would stress me out and would probably talk about her birth experience.
Also (slightly flamewortthy), I can understand being scared, but maybe if she educated herself about delivery and what can happen (options for birth, pain management, etc.), that would help her fears.
I know many who share your same thought. I didn't want my mommy because I was scared, I wanted my mom because it was a special moment in my life that I was willing to share with her. I was in the room for my sisters deliveries and really it was an awesome experience. I had a room full and would do it again! DH was by my side, my #1, the most important person that I wanted by my side.
Plans: being stuck in the house to finish up something that I have been putting off...booo
Highlights: Not really, just the average week
Lowlights: a situation with a friend that saddens me
FFC/Vents/Confessions: I know this could get ugly but here it goes....i do not understand people who baptise their child just because...I think it should be something that you believe in, practice, desire to continue out the background of your religion. I'm NOT putting anyone's religion down because I think if it's something you believe in then go for it, but I've seen people do it because they don't want their parents upset or because they think they have too. My MIL was appalled we didn't baptise, but that isn't my (or rather our) belief. I wasn't doing it because MIL felt I needed too. Plus her words were "my family gives good gifts". I totally respect MIL's beliefs, but it isn't what I believe so she (or anyone) wasn't strong arming me into baptising as an infant.
Plans -
Friday - DH comes home from OOT. I am so excited! I can't wait to get some sleep and put him on baby duty!
Saturday - Possibly high tea on Saturday, a visit to Max's Tavern (for Hops week) & dinner at a friend's house.
Sunday - Project around the house, shopping and errands.
FFC - Because I BF I do baby duty much more than DH has. I think he has watched DD by himself a total of 3 times. He has taken her out with him ONCE! Honestly, it's really starting to irritate me. He says, "If I watch her, then you'll have to pump and I'll have to take bottles and I won't know how many to take." Yes, I know I will have to pump, but it sounds like an excuse on his part and it is really starting to piss me off!
ETA: forgot the highlights and lowlights
highlights - Getting to watch a dvr'd episode of The Vampire Diaries (yes I know the series is cheesy) and working on a knitting project for DD. I am almost done. It was awesome because DH usually hogs the tv and is ALWAYS watching something.
Other highlight - going to baby story time with L because she had thrown up at dcp the day before. She is fine.
Lowlight - I think my dog (dog #1, who is 10.5) is going deaf.
What are your plans this weekend? Haircut, work on clearing out DS#2's room, grocery shopping
Any highlights this week? The pizza I am about to eat for lunch
Any lowlights? All my meals this week sucked. DH and I were attempting to eat what was in our cabinets/fridge without making random mid-week trips to the store and our meals were very boring. We also had no snacks in the house, and I seriously need to eat like every 3 hours or I lose my sh!t. I am so ravenous.
Any FFC's/vents/comments? I am probably going to cut a lot more hair off than DH likes, but I don't care, its my hair and I am the one that has to deal with it every day.
SK-I agree with everything you said. I love that DS is in daycare. I want to shank people when they imply that this is some sort of inferior choice. Its not like I *love* going to work every day, but I love how much fun he has and how much he learns there. Re: the parents in the delivery room, my parents weren't even in the hospital. We called them after DS was born and then they drove down. I really really just wanted the time to bond with DS and DH.
I agree with this 100%. I know ILs would love it if we baptized DS and they wish we would (thankfully they haven't said anything - to our faces anyway). But it's not what we believe so that's why we aren't doing it. I think it would be disrespectful of us to baptize him when it's not our belief.
BFP#1: 01/10, M/C 6w -- BFP#2: 06/10, M/C 5w -- BFP#3: 09/10, DS born June 1, 2011
BFP#4: 07/12, M/C 5w3d -- BFP#5: 12/12, EDD 08/18/13
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We told them not to come to the hospital, but they did anyway and tried 3 times to come into the delivery room which is weird because they generally aren't pushy at all. Thank goodness the nurses were good bouncers. Next kid, I don't want to call them until after the baby is born, but that might not work because we're going to need to stash DS somewhere!
BFP#1: 01/10, M/C 6w -- BFP#2: 06/10, M/C 5w -- BFP#3: 09/10, DS born June 1, 2011
BFP#4: 07/12, M/C 5w3d -- BFP#5: 12/12, EDD 08/18/13
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I never understood this, either. If you are doing it because MIL, FIL, Mom, Dad, etc. want you to, well grow a pair and refuse. Come one, you have a family and are a parent yourself. It's time to stop worrying about what mommy and daddy will think!
I agree as well. A close relative got married in a church that they went to once and never visited again until they had a baptism for their son. In instances like this I think it's just a way to get gifts.
What are your plans this weekend? Relax tonight at home, some cleaning this weekend and going to a friend's house on Saturday for dinner.
Any highlights this week? I had my thesis seminar/defense this week. It went really well and super happy to have it done with.
Any lowlights? No lowlights, I've been taking it easy after my seminar.
Any FFC's/vents/comments? No vents, it's been a good week and we're having pizza at our meeting today.Any highlights this week? Visiting a friend and meeting her new baby! And some quality time with DH last night.
Any lowlights? Nothing comes to mind.
Any FFC's/vents/comments? I've had a rough week in terms of eating - not paying as close attention, not making the best decisions. I'm irritated with myself over it, but I also know it's part of the veeeeeeery long journey I have ahead of me.
Re: having Mom in the delivery room...
I don't really understand what "Mom didn't help make the baby" has to do with whether or not it's strange for a woman to want her Mom in the delivery room. Not that I think every woman should want her mother in the delivery room - that's each woman's prerogative. From a different perspective:
There's a very real possibility I'd have asked to have my Mom in the delivery room if my experience hadn't ended in an emergency C-section. My Mom had asked to be there, not because she's a helicopter parent (OMG, so far from it), but because she's never seen a baby born and she very much wanted to see her granddaughter. And because she loves me.
I'm my Mom's only child and we are each other's best friend. I love my husband and he's my best friend in ways only a life partner can be. But my Mom and I have an incredible, special relationship, too. When something big happens, sometimes my husband is the first person I call. Sometimes my Mom is the first person I call.
So when I'm going through the single biggest thing I've ever gone through, I'm going to want a support system. And the first two people in my support system are my husband and my Mom.
Ugh, I've written half a dozen replies to this and none of them are coming out right! I guess that's my point - I don't see eye to eye on this issue with those that want to invite someone other than their partner to be a part of it. I'm not judging anyone, it's an extremely personal choice, and my view on it is surely a reflection of the type of relationship I have with my own mother and my husband.
And PS: Sorry that I hijacked the weekend post with this!!
BFP#1: 01/10, M/C 6w -- BFP#2: 06/10, M/C 5w -- BFP#3: 09/10, DS born June 1, 2011
BFP#4: 07/12, M/C 5w3d -- BFP#5: 12/12, EDD 08/18/13
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Congrats, Link!!
What are your plans this weekend? Volunteering on Saturday, meeting friends at Alewife and then going to another friend's for dinner.
Any highlights this week? Got a LOT done on a big freelance project and on some work projects. It was a very productive work week.
Any lowlights? Had to take my car into the shop. Sigh. It may be time to start shopping for a new one and it makes me so sad b/c I love my car. She's 12 years old though and things are starting to break a lot more often.
Any FFC's/vents/comments? See lowlight.And I wasn't trying to argue! It was just a different perspective
What are your plans this weekend?
Friday-A and I spent the afternoon in Annapolis, having lunch w/old coworkers. Then playdate with another friend.
Saturday-Cleaning, shopping and relaxing.
Sunday- Breakfast with my mom and grocery shopping.
Any highlights this week? Finding new daycare for A.
Any lowlights? none
Any FFC's/vents/comments?