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DOTD Monday - I'm back! :)
Kansas City says hi! three days there last week reminded me of how much I really enjoyed it when I lived there (22 years ago) and how glad I am I don't live there now (bc OY, there is no city life downtown after 5pm!).
So, there's that.
Today's box o' cards question is: What makes you lose the most sleep at night: losing friends, your job, or your youth? (No special snowflakes here -- you MUST select from these three....)
Hmmm... the grammarian in me has trouble with the wording of this question. That said, I'd probably opt for losing my job. I am good at it and seemingly getting recognized for it, but the thought of losing it panics me. I am the breadwinner in my family; we could not afford to live on John's salary alone. So there's a lot of pressure (I put) on me to be successful, all the time.
(I can't do anything about losing my youth, and I make a lot of effort to keeping friends until I realize the friendship is either one-sided, or is ending gracefully and naturally.)
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I guess losing my job. I could write a whole post about how I am feeling very restless and unmoored at work. And small part of me wants to up and quit and find something that would actually be fulfilling.
Losing youth and friends don't bother me. Youth I have no control over. They type of friendships I have are not the type that are lost easily.
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Losing youth? Getting older is certainly better than the alternative.
Losing a job? A job doesn't love you back.
Losing relationships makes me lose the most sleep.
Losing my job definitely.
I too am the breadwinner.
I don't think I'll be losing my job anytime soon since I'm a fed and it's more likely I'll die than get fired. But the thought of it is terrifying.
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Losing my job, for sure. I make way, way more money than my husband, and we'd be up a creek without a paddle if I lost my job.
Youth, eh whatever. I like to think I'm like a fine wine, getting better with age.
And friends have come and gone over the years, I tend not to sweat that very much, and value the time I had with them.
I'd say losing my job. I'm not the bread winner, but our lives would suuuuccckkkk without my paycheck.
Youth - I still act like a 13 year old most days, so I guess I can say I still got it?
Friends - Meh - if I lose a friendship, it's probably because I didn't really give a damn to begin with.
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Definitely relationships. If we're not a good fit for each other, I can accept that and let it go. But if I'm misunderstood by someone I care about, or selfishly said or did something hurtful (or they did that to me), I would absolutely lose sleep over it and would be an anxious mess until I could have a face-to-face, heart-to-heart conversation with the person and know that we understand each other again.
There's not much that actually makes me lose sleep except my kid (you could argue that she's sucking away what's left of my youth?) or the laundry list of things that need to get done day in and day out (which doesn't fit your categories).
Philosophically, I guess I am more concerned with losing friends than the others. We could get by without my income with some lifestyle changes (though I wouldn't really like to be a SAHM) and I while I miss being young when I want to go out on a Saturday night, it's not something I miss most days. (Gawd, I wouldn't want to be 18 again for a million $$.) But I do miss the people who are no longer in my life, or who seem to be drifting away.
Losing my job for sure, since I'm the breadwinner. Plus, I think that at this point it'd be hard for me to find such a great paying job elsewhere.
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Like Quesrah, not much makes me lose sleep other than my LO. But when I do lose sleep over something not LO related, it's usually money or work, so I'd pick losing my job.
Not only do I love my job and coworkers, but our lifestyle is definitely predicated on two incomes.
Ditto this word for word.