I'm hoping someone can provide me guideance here... A dear friend of mine lost his dad last week. I went to the service at the temple as well as the burial, however I was unable to attend the reception afterwards (I had to pick my dad up from my brother).
My friend said they are sitting shiva for 3 nights at 7, as I said that I would stop by. He asked if I could stay past 7 as his family would love to catch up with me. So my question is: What is shiva and is there a start and end time? What happens? I've never been to one, and am not sure of the protocol. TIA
PS: My friend lives in So Cal, and I'm up here. We've been friends for 30 years, but hadn't seen eachother in 15, so it was bittersweet...
Re: Sitting Shiva
this is all i've got. sorry hope it helps
http://judaism.about.com/library/3_askrabbi_o/bl_simmons_shivamanners.htm
Here is a link:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shiva_(Judaism)
Shiva is similar to a visitation for Protestants. From my experience, it only lasts a couple of hours each night, but I am not sure.
I am sorry you are getting to see her after so many years due to such sadness. I hope you guys are able to have some happy moments while you are there.
"Sitting shiva" refers to the seven-day period observant Jews spend mourning a loved one's death (shiva means seven in Hebrew), starting on the day of the funeral. This practice is tied to the Biblical story about Joseph mourning his father, Jacob, for seven days.
What you actually do during this period depends on how religious you and your family are (some men stop shaving, some people wear a torn garment of some sort, etc.) The family of the person who died stay home and mourn during this period, while friends and relatives come by, sometimes with food, and share in the sorrow.
Hey all....work blocked the nest so I've been m.i.a. =(
You've gotten your answer for the most part. For the most part, they'll say a few prayers including the mourner's kadish (sp?), you'll eat and then people mingle and head home.
For the rest of it, S is exactly right...depends on the level of observance.
My condolences to your friend and their family.