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Is this bad?
Please be totally honest because I have no idea if this is bad of me or not.
My
husband and I were having problems but we've been attempting to fix
them (counseling, things like that). One thing he told me that he
noticed is that he feels I'm not attracted to him. We have sex several times a week (pretty often) but I have a hard time getting wet and I rarely orgasm.
I do feel like I'm less attracted to my husband and I feel that its a contributor to my lack of excitement in the bedroom. He isn't over weight but he doesn't really make an effort when it comes to how his body looks. I used to be over weight so I lost a ton, and he loves the way I look now. I make a constant effort to go to the gym almost everyday and I eat well because I know that my body like this turns my husband on. I just want to be turned on by his body too. (By the way he's in his early 20's so it wouldn't be unhealthy for him)
So what I'm wondering is, is it bad if I ask my husband to go work out?
Re: Is this bad?
No, it's not bad, but it is a very touchy subject. If you are in counseling already that might be a good, safe place to discuss this. A few points you might highlight; working out together will give you more time together and more things in common, so will preparing healthy meals together. Let him know you worry about his health as well. It can be very hard when one spouse makes life changes that the other doesn't. Let him know that working out with you and eating healthy will show his support of you and that in itself will go a long way to turning you on.
Good luck and keep up the hard work, it's worth it!
What's interesting about this is not so much what you have said as much as what you have NOT said..........
Presumably you did find your man attractive when you met/married him and that can't be that far back as he is only 25 now,...so, was it just that YOU felt overweight and unattractive so you felt you 'deserved' an unattractive partner...?
Could it perhaps be that you have been at the gym gettign fit and have been eyeing up the male 'talent' there, and hubby does not match up when you get home...?
Perhaps you should be honest with him (and yourself)...or maybe you have just moved on from him and actually want a different type of man now.
BFP 2/10/2012!
Due Date: 10/15/2012!
Baby Boy Born 10/11/12! (Not on purpose)
New to the board.
The pp have touched on a lot on what you and your husband can do together and thats great. But I'm reading the part about your sex life (but I have a hard time getting wet and I rarely orgasm.)
I don't know about you, but I can't just go straight to sex sometimes, so maybe he needs to help you in that dept. A little foreplay never hurt anyone.