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Facebook and Dramatic/Attention seeking updates
Can I just say that FB drives me insane? LOL
It is a platform for people to share every last detail (bowel movement) of their life. Some just mundane, some really inappropriate (fighting with their spouses, and laying it out for the world to see on FB) - but I love when something dramatic happens (like an earthquake) and the world takes to FB.
Because I know that personally, if I was in serious danger the first thing Im going to do is run to FB and update.
The earthquake was super serious for people in DC and Virginia, but beyond that all the rest of us are well, rattled. But dude, suck it up..
The best update I saw (I had to log in, because I know DH's family loves to attention seek via FB) was:
"Omg, this isnt a joke guys. There's an earthquake. My china is rattling and this is reminding me too much of September 11th and the devastation that we all went through that day. I remember the fear and my heart racing, and not knowing what was going to happen next! Im having flashbacks. Its time for a beer on my stoop"
um, what? Oh, and fyi - this person that updated this - was not even in NYC when 9/11 happened. ROTFLMAO!
Do you guys have people on your FB that just make your eyes involuntarily roll? LOL
...here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart
I carry your heart(I carry it in my heart)
Re: Facebook and Dramatic/Attention seeking updates
Well, to be honest, most of the people I know in VA and DC said it really wasn't a big deal. So not sure I would call it "super serious."
I guess for me I was initially confused about what happened today. Posting to FB was a way to corroborate that, yes, in fact what I experienced was an earthquake. My heart was definitely beating a mile a minute. I agree that there was a bit of melodrama by some and the news milked it for all its worth, but still... some people get shaken up by natural events that are out of their control like this.
Also, I hope you're not generally picking on people who were devastated on 9/11 even though they were not in NYC. I hope you're just picking on your friend because (s)he's a drama queen. You realize that DC and PA residents experienced their own terrible events that day. I also don't think you needed to be in any of those places to feel touched by what happened. I don't need to recount to you my version of the events as I experienced them, but I can tell you that it was one of the most horrible weeks of my life.
I'll clear up what I meant: The posts that I saw on my feed were totally milking it for the dramatic effect. See, when I said the quake in DC and VA were super serious, it was rated as a 5.9... THAT is scary, so I get the fear and all the rest of it. For us, not so much..I do get that people get shaken up by things out of their control..totally.
Further, with regards to the 9/11 post, I get it. I was there, at the site when it happened and know how scary it was. And yes, I know how scary it was for people that werent there. HOWEVER, this person again - milks it for drama.
I'll give you another example. My DH's best friend was one of the two firemen that was killed in the Deutsche Bank fire next to the WTC site. *Remember that, about 2 years ago? Anyway, this person (when it happened) was going on and on about how depressed and devastated and shaken up she was about his death. Posting on and on about it. Someone said something to the effect "Im so sorry for your loss, I had no idea you were friends with him" - um, she never knew him...never even met him. She made it look like they had some friendship and actually knew each other. It wasnt saying something like "I feel bad for his family, etc" - it was about HER feelings of loss. CRAZYCAKES.
There are just people that have to feel like they are "part" of something, even when its a tragedy. They get to personalize it, and make it their own just for the attention. I hate that FB gives a platform for that. Thats all...
ugh, I generally hate people who feel the need to pretend they were involved in any sort of dramatic incident, exaggerate their ties to it, flat out make up ties to it, etc. Not only on FB, just in life in general.
Here's an example...when I was in HS, there was a drug related killing in my condo complex, three doors down from my apartment. 6 people were killed, execution-style, and a seventh escaped by pretending to be dead and then jumping off the second-story balcony and banging on my neighbors' doors. Google "college point massacre" if you want to know more.
Anyway, this happened literally three doors down from my apartment, on the same floor. I was home with my parents and we heard nothing. The killers used knives and had silencers on their guns. No one heard anything, not even the downstairs and upstairs neighbors in the same unit (well, they heard screaming but thought it was just a fight....).
When I went to school the next day, alllll the girls that lived in my neighborhood were going on and on about how they heard the gun shots. REALLY??? You live a half a mile away, and you heard GUN SHOTS? When none of us in the same condo complex heard anything?????
It irritated me so much. these people were my neighbors (I didn't know them though), cops were at my house interrogating us, reporters were interviewing us, and I didn't say anything about it unless I was asked. But these other girls were spouting off at the mouth about how they heard it all, just so that everyone else would say "OMG, that's so horrible! Are you ok??"
I hate people like that.
/rant.