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Divorce attorney?
My husband and I have been having a lit of issues surrounding money, honesty and his disrespectful and reckless behavior. I don't have a computer right now, only my phone so I can't really get into everything but basically we have been going to counseling for the past month and it hasn't been helping. After I found out that my husband ( who has $70 in his accruing bc he has been spending so recklessly and excessively) spent $1100 on a new bicycle and has been hiding it from me at a friends house. Bc I got upset with his broken promises, lying and deceitfulness, i told him to go stay at a friends forba couple of nights. Yesterday he said he was going to look at apartments and I told him if he signed an apt lease then I consider that a sign he is done with the marriage. I found out today that he signed s lease and he is now telling me that he isn't going to help pay the mortgage and bills here anymore. I am freaking out at his willingness to throw things away with such little counseling. I feel like I need to get an attorney to protect myself and my assets I had before the marriage. In addition, I have expressed concerns that he may have bipolar disorder. He went from a period of clinical depression to this manic phase he is in now. The marriage counselor suggested he get evaluated for it but he refuses to do so. We have been together for 7 years and married for three with no kids. What should I do in this situation? Should I get an attorney? If so, who do you recommend? I want him to get help so we can get through this but he is totally unwilling.
Re: Divorce attorney?
Agree with PP... I have no recs, but I'm sure you will get some yet! Good Luck to ya and sorry you have to go through this. **HUGS**
i used steve stroh with bianco stroh. i was satisfied. with the experience. so sorry you are going through this.
My husband used Stephen Ebke in Council Bluffs when he was going through his divorce with his ex. Mr. Ebke is very good at what he does, his prices are competitive, and I think he did a great job overall. And I say that knowing that my husband didn't get everything he was asking for! But that was the judge itself, not Mr. Ebke. Mr. Ebke did everything right, and he's just a really nice guy as well.
I hope that helps. So sorry to hear about your problems, and I hope everything works out for the best.
I don't have any recs since I'm not in the area, but offer my ear in the event you need someone to talk to. I found that divorce is a time when you find out where your true friends really fall, and it is really a lonely process that makes you feel very much on the outside.
I suggest seeing a counselor. I'm pretty sure that's the only thing that kept me going (other than my kids) most days. Validation of my feelings and a neutral sounding board.
ETA: Derp, Jeana. I see that you've been going to counseling. Awesome. Hang in there.
Sorry, was posting from my phone last night and couldn't figure out how to use caps or punctuation...
I had kids, and that's why I had a lawyer... but we had also just bought a house and XH was suddenly "too broke" to help with the mortgage on the house we just bought three months before he decided to get a GF. Absolutely get a lawyer to protect your assets and your credit - otherwise everything will be split 50/50 through the regular process...
love is for every her, love is for every him, love is for everyone
I have heard good things about the sarpy county atty, but I can't remember his name right now.
Sorry you're going through this.
THIS. I hope you never have to lose friends like I did. My two best friends were complete azzholes...I don't even miss them now that they haven't been in my life for 3+ years though. I hope you figure everything out...and I agree it is awesome you are going to counseling. It saved me in many ways. Hugs!
So sorry that this is happening. If you need an ear, you got it. I'm still in the throws of separation (9 months now). But one thing I've learned, I REALLY love being on my own. I did have to get a roommate (she lives in the basement) since H wouldn't/won't help w/ mortgage either. Don't rule that out, it's really not too bad.
Good luck.