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Kind of torn
C got a job offer in Blanchard. He has never applied there but his family and we have done business with them. They offered him a good $ amount/hour to come to work. It would be a great well established company to work for.
The part that I am torn about is I really don't want to move to Blanchard nor do I have any idea of what kind of job I would begin to look for or know how hard it would be to find a job there. We talked about it last night and I would rather move to Edmond (or that area) that way I can still keep my job in Stillwater but C doesn't like that fact that both of us would be driving so he shot that down. Plus we would be away from our family (except FIL who is in OKC) and that is one reason we bought a house where we did-to be close to our family. I told him this morning I did not want to move to Blanchard and he said okay. Well, this afternoon he sends me 2 listings on homes for sale in Blanchard; they are out of town and on the other side of Blanchard-I am so not happy right now and do not want to deal with this at all.
Re: Kind of torn
I totally understand being sad to leave your job, and moving to Edmond would be a really long drive for both of you.
However, why would you have to move to Blanchard? There are so many areas of the OKC metro that would be a fairly close drive to Blanchard. You'd still have to leave your job, but you might be able to find a happy medium in regards to less distance from family.
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SW OKC is a super quick drive to Blanchard. You would have to find a new job, but there are opportunities in OKC, depending on what you do.
I'm not trying to encourage you at all. I drive 40 miles one way to work because I want to live where I live. I'm just saying it could be do-able without having to live in Blanchard.
ALSO, Edmond to Stillwater would be slightly more than my mileage a day. I spend close to $500/month in gas. It's not worth it.
I think it would be better if C wasn't so hellbent on living in Blanchard only. I would look for another job but I will keep my current job until I find something else.
I am also hesitant because I don't have a degree so i think it will be hard for me to find another job. If we were to move to Edmond then we would both be about equally distanced from our jobs. We currently live 30 minutes from where we are working now so were used to driving it not being a big deal.
Mustang and Tuttle would also be areas that you could live in to be pretty close to Blanchard. Mustang is very close to Kilpatrick Turnpike, I-40, and I-44 as well, so you'd be able to get wherever you needed to get pretty quickly.
Is the loss of your income worth moving? If it is, then take your time finding a job. I know thinking about uprooting your life where you are seems difficult, but does it make more sense in the long run? Could it lead to big promotions and a bigger career path than what C is doing now? Wherever you go you will be able to make friends--you don't seem like a hard person to get along with, so I wouldn't worry about that in the least.
Ultimately if this makes more sense financially then you could try it for a while. Don't buy a house in the first year--if you love it, buy after the year is up. If C hates it and so do you, then move back and keep your options open. Nothing says that you'll be stuck in this same place forever. Who knows...it could lead to something even greater for you and C.
We are about an hour from my family and I really enjoy it. I see them about once a week-2 weeks and it's plenty. We moved to a new town about a year ago and I haven't had any trouble making new friends--the neighbors alone have been awesome & we really love it here. I hope you're able to make a decision that is best for both of you. I know it is hard and it sucks.
Good luck!
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It would be better financially for C and the job pertains to what he went to college for.
I have always done office/clerical work and have some banking experience. If I could make what I am making now it may be easier.
We would be about 2 hours away from my parents and C's mom and step dad. It is just a hard decisions because we had planned to never move from where we are now and C's mom just gave us land to build on or whatever. I am just going to pray about it and see what happens.
For what it's worth, I see positions pretty often around here for office/clerical work, and I see banking positions periodically as well. Since you're not in a super niche group (i.e. oklagirl's industry or even to some extent, what I do), I don't think you'll have too much trouble finding a position. The economy here has been pretty good.
Pray on it. Who knows, maybe this will be a temporary thing that's only several years, and later on down the road you can move back and build on that land.
And if I were you, I would suggest telling H you should live in Norman or Moore or SW OKC. I think any of those would be great compromises to Blanchard. I live in SW OKC, and I'm really not too far from Blanchard at all. If he wants to uproot you both, I think that's more than a fair compromise.
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I couldn't agree more with this statement. I'm also from Blanchard, grew up there my whole life and while it is a nice small town to live in there are a ton of people who like to judge you. Most of my family still lives there and loves it but that is the one thing I hated about living there. Good luck with your decision!!
I will so be hitting you up if we move to that area. I think we could drink alot together.