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Don't want to Hijack the Baby Shower post...
I have been feeling a little sad about this lately because I don't see how I will get to have one. I don't care at all about the gift aspect but I am sad about not having the whole gathering/stupid games etc. I didn't have a shower before my wedding either as I was able to just fly in less than a week before. Also we don't have a permanent apartment (we move about once a year) so we keep our possessions simple and often leave them behind.
I know its just part of living so far away, plus I have my family in Canada, and my in-laws (who I love as well) in Ireland so there is no way to get them all together. I guess maybe it is just some homesickness about not doing this at home.
Re: Don't want to Hijack the Baby Shower post...
Maybe someone is planning a surprise shower for you and just doing a really good job of keeping it a secret.
The next time I will be home will be with a 6 month old and I know that I will be fighting off the family then...I just feel like I'm missing out on some of the traditional things that go with these milestones by being away.
It does suck to be pregnant and away from all your family and friends. Maybe someone will throw you a skype shower? It is not the same at all, but I have actually been to one, and I don't know maybe it is a thing now. Basically the mommy to be's registry was on amazon and everyone was supposed to send her gifts ahead of time. (Husband was in the military and they were stationed somewhere in Germany) Then everybody went over to the hostess house for the party and we just dialed her up on skype and she opened presents and we played a few games. People still brought presents to the actually party as well, and they just got mailed after the fact.
Honestly it was obviously an unconventional shower but it was nice. I sorta felt bad that they moved like right after she told everyone she was expecting so why not make an effort right?
Just an idea...also I know you can't really ask someone to throw you a party like that, but as I said, maybe it's a thing, and someone will think of it on their own for you.
Id never even heard of bridal showers or baby showers till i moved here and since then have attended 2 baby showers.
Your right its not the gifts (although they are very helpful) its more the whole get together and silly games. What a wonderful way for friends to get together and share your joy at having a baby.
OP i really hope you are able to have something - everyone deserves this celebration .
I think a lot of us on here feel the same way. I did get to have a baby shower because I went home for a visit during my pregnancy, but most of our family and all of our friends back home didn't get to meet our children until they were 10 months old already. My dad, my grandparents, FIL... it sucks.
We tend to do the same thing with our posessions - and decorating our house. I'd love to buy a house and paint and decorate... but we're too nomadic. I'd also love to have my tibetan headdress, my mexican mask, my photo albums, my chinese art, etc. at my house - but they are in boxes in Canada.
Hugs - this part of being an expat blows.
Chronically hilarious - you'll split your stitches!
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I didn't have a wedding or baby shower either.
In Vietnam the tradition is to host a One Month party after the baby is born, we did a combination One Month party / Goodbye party at our place and all our friends got to meet him. Some brought gifts, we had a DJ, tons of food and booze, it was a lot of fun!
Is there similar tradition in Korea?
I had a bridal shower and I wasn't a huge fan. I think it's best to keep my family and DH's family far apart anyway :-)
Can you have a couple small gatherings - like one at your current home and maybe one with your family? You could do a no gifts party for your friends maybe?
I do understand how hard it can be. I had a horrible realisation the other day that if I have a boy, I'm going to have to figure out how to get a Jewish circumcision ceremony for him. And since I don't have any Jewish friends or any relatives here, it will just be me and DH without DH's involvement since he's not Jewish anyway. It's such a rite of passage in my world and it won't be like I had envisioned so many years ago.
BFP Apr 2012, EDD Dec 19 2012 * twin h/b at 6wk, 9wk scan * Baby A lost at 12wks, Baby B was my rainbow born at 36wks