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DOTD Thursday

not earthquake- or Irene-related....

"Are people who treat their pets like children endearing or unbearable?"

Not gonna lie - use of "furbabies" makes me "ick." Bc really? how old are we? More than a little too cutesy for me.

 I don't have a problem with people being really attached to their animals (bc I am one of those people), but I do have a problem with people who behave as if the animals were more important than humans.Like, comparing one's pet to another person's baby.

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  • I'm sorry, and I realize I have a heart of stone, but ugh. Pets are not people. And I felt this way before I had a kid, so it's not that. I understand that you love them and they're very important to you, but pets are animals.
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  • Yeah, I would pretty much ditto that word for word. I love our dogs, but they are our pets, not our babies.
  • I would vote for endearing. I think it's nice when a human loves and takes care of another creature (whether it's another human or a pet). Pets make people happy. I'm never going to go against having more happiness and love in the world.

    My only caveat is if someone does have a child and they put the pet above the child. Now, that's an issue. I love my dog but she is definitely at the bottom of the totem pole in our house (but she is still well loved and taken care of).

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  • My parents love their dogs like they are children.  While I'm not quite that much a dog lover, it doesn't bother me.  I really love dogs and have had several dogs in my life, but I've never treated them like people the way my parents do.  But again, that's them, and I love them, so what.

    However, I did see a lady on the Today show yesterday who hoarded cats.  She said that having them taken away was harder than quitting her drug addiction.  Because - says she - losing a pet is like losing a child. Confused Ummmm... thank God I don't know what losing a child is like, but I've lost a pet or two and I'm gonna take a guess here and say - NO.  Losing a pet is NOT like losing a child.  That pissed me off.

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  • I'm torn.  I'm not a pet person, but I do know at least one person who turned her dog into a furbaby because she couldn't have a baby of her own.  I don't think it's an endearing quality to treat your pet like a child rather than just a well-loved part of the family, but since I know that for some people it's a way to compensate for something missing in their lives it doesn't usually make me want to yak.
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  • OK hoarders are just weird and a special case, but see this lady at about 5:00, so almost at the end of the segment:

    http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/26184891/vp/44270430#44255092

     

     

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  • I think there's a difference between showering your pet with love and spoiling them, and actually treating them on the same level as a human child. I have no problem with the former, but I would roll my eyes at the latter.
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  • I love my dog. I really, really love my dog. She's got fifty million nicknames, she lets me carry all 40 pounds of her around the house like a baby, we miss her desperately when we're gone. But, she's not a child. We frequently say to each other, "If we love the dog this much, can you even imagine what it must be like to love a child?" So, while we are somewhat crazy dog people, we still recognize there is a tremendous difference between animals and people. I'm a little weirded out by people who don't differentiate between the two.

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    I love my dog. I really, really love my dog. She's got fifty million nicknames, she lets me carry all 40 pounds of her around the house like a baby, we miss her desperately when we're gone. But, she's not a child. We frequently say to each other, "If we love the dog this much, can you even imagine what it must be like to love a child?" So, while we are somewhat crazy dog people, we still recognize there is a tremendous difference between animals and people. I'm a little weirded out by people who don't differentiate between the two.

    This is exactly DH and I. 

  • imageWinesNot Whines:
    I think there's a difference between showering your pet with love and spoiling them, and actually treating them on the same level as a human child. I have no problem with the former, but I would roll my eyes at the latter.

    This EXACTLY!!

    DH and I can't have kids so probably spoil/give Zoey things we might not if we could have children (fine. I admit it. The year we lost our baby girl I forced Zoey into a fairy princess costume for halloween.).

    But in addition to the cutesy-pootesy talk being annoying, I think people do dogs a HUGE disservice when they expect them to behave and be treated like humans.

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    imageWinesNot Whines:
    I think there's a difference between showering your pet with love and spoiling them, and actually treating them on the same level as a human child. I have no problem with the former, but I would roll my eyes at the latter.

    But in addition to the cutesy-pootesy talk being annoying, I think people do dogs a HUGE disservice when they expect them to behave and be treated like humans.

    Those 2 thoughts sum up my answer pretty well.

  • I don't know.  I try not to judge.  I think pets are a great comfort to a lot of people who are lonely or live alone or can't have kids.

    We used to be much more about our pets until DS arrived.  I still love them, but they aren't a priority.  DS comes first.  We don't treat them like children, but they're still furry members of the family albeit second class. 

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  • I am definitely one of those "dogs as children" people.  It took us a few years to get pregnant, during which our two Bichons became our babies.  And since Guinevere was born two months ago, we've continued to include them in our family.  

    The dogs still sleep in our bed (baby was in crib from day 1), and since I can walk to daycare, I use the stroller to take the dogs to and from with me each day.  They come to all family gatherings that they can, and we tell Guinevere the dogs are her sisters.  We weren't sure how much the dogs would like her, the breed is notorious for turning on kids after having parents to themselves, but they adore her, and take every opportunity to sit next to whomever is holding her.  I definitely consider myself a momma of three.

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    We used to be much more about our pets until DS arrived.  I still love them, but they aren't a priority.  DS comes first.  We don't treat them like children, but they're still furry members of the family albeit second class. 

    This.  I sometimes refer to the dog as the "big sister" but that's pretty much it. 

    And for those who loooooooove there pet(s), there's always this.

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  • We love our dog. We are not sure if we want to have a child, so Sophie is our baby. We spoil her (give her treats, let her sleep in our bed, let her on the furniture, etc) a lot and I know if anything were to happen to her, I would be devastated. She really is part of our family.

    However, I would never say she was my "furbaby" (gross term) or put clothes on her. Also, I love to joke that Sophie is the perfect kid for us because no one calls CPS when we leave her at home by herself for hours on end :)

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    imagecep1976:

    I love my dog. I really, really love my dog. She's got fifty million nicknames, she lets me carry all 40 pounds of her around the house like a baby, we miss her desperately when we're gone. But, she's not a child. We frequently say to each other, "If we love the dog this much, can you even imagine what it must be like to love a child?" So, while we are somewhat crazy dog people, we still recognize there is a tremendous difference between animals and people. I'm a little weirded out by people who don't differentiate between the two.

    This is exactly DH and I. 

    Same here.  I love my dog to pieces (and like her better than most people) and she is spoiled rotten, but I know she is not a child and don't expect her to be treated as one. 

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  • I think it depends on where you are in life (if you are an animal lover).  Before we had kids, our 2 labs were our kids.  We showered them with attention as soon as we got home from work, went on walks/runs with them.  I never dressed them up though, NMS.  They are just a great source of love and comfort. 

    Now that we have 2 human kids, they keep moving down the line on the totem pole.  I feel bad about it, but their dogs not humans. 

    Now once our kids our all grown up I'm sure that I will have dogs in my life and they will get alot of attention since I will not be able to shower that on my human children as they are hopefully at of the house living on their own.

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  • I love my dog like she's a child.  She's part of our family and no matter what will always be.  We got her when she was 8 weeks old and she's 7 now. 

    Do I dress her up and parade her around in store - absolutely not.  But I do feel bad when she's sick and miss her when we're gone for a couple days. 

  • imagebabygirlpriest:
    The year we lost our baby girl I forced Zoey into a fairy princess costume for halloween.).


    i am a BIG supporter of pets in halloween costumes.  then again, i'm also a big supporter of dressing up infants in cute things before they're old enough to protest...


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