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Re: POLL: DH's job's "demand"
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I think the thing that most annoys me is he doesn't set hours. So he has customers calling him at all times of the day, as early as 6AM and as late as 11 at night, on Sundays! Who does that?
Some days I get really fed up, last night I blew up at him. Zac was crying and I needed help but DH was in his own little world so from a different room I started storming to him yelling, "If I get in there and you are on your f*#$king blackberry..."
It's hard to say.
H's job is pretty demanding and last minute. It's the nature of his job. He is salary but only works when there is work. So if the company is slow, he just hags out at home ( still getting paid- thankfully) but then all of a sudden it can pick up and he's gone OOT for a month straight. OOT can mean Augusta which is 2 hrs a way , Wyoming or the Bahamas.No rhyme or reason to any of it. The upside is I can go on the trips- paid for by the company if I want to ( and can get the time off work).
It's really hard to plan family things and I wonder how things will work when we have a bio LO. Now a lot of things get cancelled at the last minute.
I think I'm more understanding than most of his coworkers wives- mainly because my dad was in the military and it's very similar to how I grew up. I'm used to the travel, the OOT, the long hours and short- timing. Several of H's co-workers have divorced or left the industry b/c their wives and families couldn't handle it. Other wives travel with their H's everywhere.
He's got it pretty easy. He signs up for OT if we need the money but it's always planned and he is out of there on the dot every day if not earlier. Soon, if he wants to sign up for OT he will be able to do it from home so that will be nice if we have kids.
DH goes through phases with how much he is working. A few weeks ago he was right in the middle of working all the time because he is currently the only full time occupational therapist for his company. Things seem to have slowed down since last week. his paychecks when he is super busy is a nice thing though.
He almost always has paperwork and charting to do in the evening since he sees his patients in their homes he doesn't get much office time. It doesn't really bother me because he is home and still spending time with me even if it's while sitting in front of his computer. He really loves his job so sometimes he reallyenjoys getting his work done. He has been known to make his own assistance devices for his patients.
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I am so glad that DH went back to being an electrician last week. So now he is back to being out of the house by 6 am at the latest and home by 4 pm at the latest and it's Mon-Fri unless he has overtime to work on Sat. It is so much better for us as a family this way because his pay is steady and he gets to be home with the kids in the evening on and the weekends. We still work opposite schedules, but will see each other more now. When he was working at the dealership I had to keep him in check he was working a lot of 12 hour days, sometimes working on his day off, and worked every Saturday all day. The pay definitely didn't equal up to the long hours since he was commission only and it wasn't worth it since he never saw the kids or me. Much happier with the job switch because I was having to keep him in check when he was a car salesman, but now I know he will be able to find better balance between family and work.
DH is a student, so it's pretty self-directed on when he's "working". The first two years of his program were pretty demanding. The first year, the classes were super hard, so he spent every spare moment studying - all day Saturday and Sunday, and he often didn't come to bed until 3 or 4 in the morning. The second year was a little better, he was more confident in his classes, but also doing research on the side. All summer he was studying for his comprehensive exams, which meant 12-16 hours a day, and at least 6-8 hours a day on the weekends.
Thank goodness he's now on his third year - no more classes, just research from here on out. It will still be a lot of work, but he'll get to make his own hours and work from home a lot. Soooo awesome. (Today, he is working from home and doing all our laundry. My hero!)
DH has a crazy job. He is a day player, doing audio for television. He travels all the flipping time, and a short day is 8 hours. The pay makes it a good job, but it's still hard. He left sometime this week and will get in Friday at Midnight, working again Sunday/Monday, and I *think* he's OOT again Tuesday-Saturday.
I miss him, especially now that we have the baby. But it provides well for us, he gets to meet interesting people (he's doing some swamp show right now, chasing alligators), but it is hard. God forbid this hurricane hits, he might get called off job #1 and be gone for who knows how long (he was in Washington after 9/11 for weeks, New Orleans for a few weeks after Katrina, etc.). It's unpredictable, it's long hours, but it pays the bills.
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I wasn't sure which option to choose. The military is both really demanding and really flexible.
His usual work day is from like 7am-4pm, but today he was able to go in late (and stay late) to be able to go to my dr appt with me.
Then there are other times that he is on mandatory 12-hour shifts and of course the deployments and TDY trips where he is gone from anywhere from a week or two or 4 or 5 months.
ETA: Right now Sam is in a position for a couple more years where he is strictly on days and doesn't have to work weekends. In his usual position he could have to work any of the 3 shifts and weekend duty could happen every month or so.
If DH is working in the office he's gone 8-5ish, so not bad at all.
However he has been travelling a lot recently (probably 60-70% of his time) so that's been hard. His travel is often on less than 24 hours notice and he can be gone anywhere from a day to a week at a time. The only nice thing about it is that he's racked up a ton of FF miles and hotel points. I think we're taking a free spring break trip this year!
He also has a week of on-call every 6 weeks or so (he's on next week). During his week if a problem arrises outside of normal business hours (8-5), he needs to take care of it. The 3am calls and the weekends really suck. He does do the oncall work from home, but we can't go too far from home or be gone for long periods of time.
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