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Husband wants to Join the Military...Need help.
Hi! I usually post over on GP ...I hope you ladies don't mind me posting over here :-)
My husband has been thinking about joining the military for a few months now and within the last week as seemed to become rather serious about it. He asked me what I thought and too be honest.....well, I just don't know.
Of course I want to support him in whatever he wants to do but at the same time.....I have no idea what this life would mean for us....and really, I am scared that something would happen and he wouldn't come home.
I don't know what kind of questions to ask or what it would really mean for me to be a military wife.
He hasn't gone to speak to a recruiter yet....I guess he is planning on doing that sometime next week.....
I don't really know what the point of this post is....I guess just to get some advice or find out if what I am feeling (confused, a little sad, selfish....I don't want to be away from him) is normal.... What kind of questions do I ask? What would life look like for the first few year he is in the military?
Re: Husband wants to Join the Military...Need help.
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Thanks so much for pointing out the FAQ thingy! I am reading right now!
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You probably won't have many questions we can answer until you speak to a recruiter.
-You WILL move if he goes active duty
-He WILL deploy
As for me, I enjoy being a military wife. There are days when I'd rather be anything but. Thankfully those don't happen often. Have an open mind when you speak to the recruiter. Ask a lot of questions. There are no dumb questions, the military is a way of life not just a job.
GL!
Thank you! I am making a list of questions to ask!
Seriously though. I grew up in Houston where there was no one in the military because the nearest post or base was an hour across town. When I say that I knew nothing about the military when I started dating DH, I mean I knew nothing! I joined a forum similar to this one and learned a lot from reading other posts and the ladies were always so helpful if I had any questions. I think it's normal to feel scared and selfish when you don't know anything about the lifestyle. I cried myself to sleep the night DH graduated/commissioned because I wasn't sure what to expect and I knew he was leaving for training and that a deployment would be around the corner. BUT I think it's more the "unknown" that's the scariest part and when you join the lifestyle it gets easier.
My current concerns are the proposed budget cuts that would require the military to pay for their healthcare. Also, they want to do away with the 20 year retirement and implement a 401K. I think those changes would definitely influence whether people join/stay in the military.
Photo bomb, yeah!
Yuck. I hadn't heard about this crap. I have to say, I'm not a fan.
Thanks....we live far away from military bases and no one in either of our families is in the military so it really is all so foreign to me....
Well there's incentive for DH to retire this year.
Have none of you watched or read the news? Sec. Pannetta has stated nothing will happen to our current benefits system anytime in the near future. And if it were to change in the future, they would "grandfather" current AD members into the current retirement system.
I am AD, as is my DH. My bet is these changes will never happen.
I said it was a proposed budget cut and a politician promising something won't happen in the "near future" isn't worth much...mainly because they're a politician. The company my uncle works for did the same switch for retirement. He got "grandfathered" in and is basically getting screwed and getting a portion of what he should. I hope you're right but unfortunately nothing is guaranteed.
Photo bomb, yeah!