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WWYD: My mom won't stop cleaning my house.
My mom's been retired for almost a year now and is (still) super bored. For the past week we've had painters at the house. She offered to come over to our house to let the painters in to the garage and to wait while they replaced our front door, since I've been out of town and H can't work from home.
The first time she couldn't figure out how to use the internet or the TV, so she folded all of H's laundry in his closets and the dirty laundry he leaves on the floor. (This included dirty underwear.)
I called her later that night and tried to tell her to not do that, but in a joking way. Apparently that message didn't get through to her.
Then today she had to come over to let the painters in one more time. She cleaned the entire freaking kitchen. She threw out my FCF boxes that were waiting to go back, the empty vokda bottle that needs to be filled with my blueberry infused vodka, threw away a bunch of other stuff that didn't need to be thrown out and cleaned every little thing.
Yes, we do have house cleaners that come ever 3 weeks (my mom doesn't know this and might actually keel over dead if I told her) and cleans the house for us, so I know that the kitchen was not that dirty. (H doesn't cook when I'm not home.) H said she moved everything around in the pantry and (not that he knew where things were before) he can't find anything now.
I know that she has good intentions, but I feel totally violated and irritated.
Here's the catch. The house we are living in was a wedding gift from my parents.
Do I suck it up and let her clean while she's "hanging out" or do I tell her to stop? And, the painters will be done tomorrow, so she shouldn't have a reason to come back and hang out at the house for a long time.
Thoughts? WWYD?
Re: WWYD: My mom won't stop cleaning my house.
Sarack would tell her mom to stop it.
But, in your situation, I would just let it go. She won't be there for a while.. I'd be mad though that she got rid of stuff you needed to keep!
On a side note, your parents bought you a house for a wedding gift? I love your parents. Why don't I have them?
i've been trying to get adopted by her parents for years. i'd give them GRANDKIDS!
either way, i'd just let it go. one more day of her cleaning..when you get back, you can tell her not to throw away your stuff anymore and that you really needed some of that stuff.
in the meantime, finish off a fifth of vodka on your own, and you'll have a new bottle for your blueberry vodka.
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When the gal called me after my first order I asked if we were to give the boxes back and she said no, please recycle them with your usual recyclables. She did ask that if you ever got anything in freezer/cooler bags that you put those out for the next delivery.
But UW - I say you let it slide and then tell her to knock it off when you get home! And if you need friends to polish of some vodka for the large bottle, I say a Saturday Seattle Nestie GTG is in order.
Wait, you guys recycle your FCF boxes? They told me that I could give them back and they'd reuse them. Have I been the sucker saving my boxes?
So, I'm not sure what happened (I didn't talk to my mom last night) but this morning I got an email from her and it said something to the effect of, sorry if I over stepped my boundaries for cleaning yesterday. You guys always seem so stressed and busy and it seemed like you could use a little help. I won't do it any more though.
I'm guessing she told my dad what she did and my dad told her to knock it off and to let us clean our own house.
Either way, I will tell her thanks and that she doesn't need to do it any more. Honestly though, am I over reacting for her cleaning the house?
yes, sucker. i use them as storage (or i've saved 3 in the 10 months or so i've been getting the box)
maybe she lurks the nest.
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jumped ship to the new and improved nest. back to TB for baby boards.
this.
however, to your other question: if she touched/folded your H's dirty laundry... that is really a little overstepping and i'd be irritated because she touched his dirty underwear.. but really, i'd appreciate it. and if she found anything else she didn't wanna see, she shouldn't have cleaned. I think she was trying to be nice.
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The logical side of me says: tell her to stop.
The part where I think we have the same mother thinks it's just easier not to say anything. My parents were in our home for about 3 weeks in July. They drilled holes, put up crap, bought us a lot of random things they insist we need (like a freaking box freezer now in our garage) and we couldn't say no cause no would cause arguments and drama I just don't want to deal with.
We're still cleaning up after their stay. :P
It really depends on if this is a fight you want to have. I don't know if your mom will react like mine would, but mine would be completely wounded and upset and then tell my dad who would then get upset with us for being ungrateful. :P