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I need some advice ladies!
My close friend (who I have known for over 10 years) is going through a divorce.
They were married four about 5 years, have a four year old and an almost two year old.
The way they ended was a bit messy....but they are being very civil, sharing the kids, etc.
But they are now struggling financially and my friend is having a hard time.
I went over to her place tonight because she was really upset and crying (she had the kids tonight too). And I have no idea what to say or do to help her....
So IDK if any of you have any advice to give me on how to help...but if so it would be great! I feel for her and the kids and this can't be easy, you know, I just want to help her however I can.
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Re: I need some advice ladies!
I think just being there for her is what she might need right now. Let her cry, talk, vent if she needs to sometimes. I want to say try to make her feel positive about how things will get better. But I have never been in her situation and don't know if that is the right way to go about things.
Just be a friend for her when she obviously needs one!
This is the best advice I have. Maybe also offering to baby-sit if she needs the help (and you are comfortable with doing so) if her ex can't take the kids.
I agree with both above. Just be available if she needs an ear. Maybe offer to take her and the kids to the zoo (or a park, or any inexpensive kid friendly activity in your area)on a weekend to get her out of the house and her mind off of things for a bit. I remember when my ex fiance and I broke up, a good friend of mine would randomly send a card in the mail simply saying just thinking of you. It was such a simple thing, but it always made me smile.
I think the fact that you are taking the time to ask the best way to help, really shows how good of a friend you are and how much you care. I'm really sorry your friend is going through such a difficult time!
She is not looking for you to 'do' anything, but I gaurentee it means a ton to her that you are just there. The fact that you are posting on the board asking for help tells me that she means a great deal to you as well.
The worst part about losing a S/O is that you are suddenly alone...alone for dinner with the kids, alone when you are at home watching tv, alone when paying the monthly bills, alone when you want to go for an after dinner walk; all those things that you used to do with your S/O you now need to learn how to do by yourself. It is a scary culture shock. Just by being there with her you are helping more than you know.
Show up the next night you know that her ex has the kids with a tub of ice cream, a couple bottles of wine, and a chick flick.
Thanks guys!
I'd love to take the kids and baby-sit for one night for her (but I'm not great with kids) unless H would go with me but he didn't seem interested when I said something to him last night.
I do have a family four pack to go to this place to Fairytale Town that I won forever ago so I was thinking I'd go with her and the kiddies when we both have the same day off.