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Fertility help

J.Johnson-SmithJ.Johnson-Smith
in Des Moines Nesties
My cousin has been trying to conceive for at least 5 years with no luck.  They have attempted some fertility treatments with no luck and haven't been able to afford IVF.  I am wanting to make her a basket of fertility aids/encouragement.  This isn't something I have dealt with personally so I thought maybe some of you ladies would have some good ideas of things I could include?  Thanks so much.
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  • Mrs.ReemMrs.Reem
    I think your heart is in the right place and I love you for that. What I'm thinking is that if they've been trying for 5 years, they've probably tried everything in the book and they might just feel frustrated with a basket of aids. A lot of well meaning people try to chime in with the "have you tried this..." or "If you just..." an it gets kind of insulting even though people don't mean it that way. Maybe just an "I'm thinking of you and I'm here if you ever need to talk" basket would be nice though. Maybe some chocolates or pampering items? Wine? You are just the sweetest friend and she's lucky to have you.  :)
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    I agree with Mrs.Reem.  It's wonderful that you care so much and want to be there for them but I would stay away from any fertility related care packages.  Just let them know you're thinking of them and want them to be happy.

    We're working on 4 years of TTC and there isn't much that we need or haven't tried.  At this point the suggestions and ideas from others just add to the hurt. They've probably done lots of research and tried more things (proven and old wives tales) than you can think of - just to see if maybe it would work.

    Oh and I would say wine could be VERY appreciated :)

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  • J.Johnson-SmithJ.Johnson-Smith
    Thanks ladies..I know you're right.  I just feel so helpless!  Wine it is!
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  • eriness`eriness` member
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    I agree with Mrs.Reem.  I think just a card or basket of pampering, I'm thinking of you and want to spend time with you no matter how your life is, gift would be best.  Let her know you're there for her for venting, listening, as a sounding board, and to have fun with. 
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