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I'm a Bridesmaid! I just have one little question...
I am a bridesmaid for a wedding in October. It's the first time I have ever been one, and to be honest, I don't really know the girl that well. She is the partner of one of DH's friends, and when she asked me she was drunk, and I totally thought she would call me the next day and take it back!
I have been as supportive as possible, and given good suggestions etc. She lives a 6 hour flight away from here, so I can understand that it would be hard planning a wedding from far away. But it also means we haven't had the chance to 'bond'.
So here is the question. My hair is green, really dark green, not highlighter green. It's been green since December. I like having green hair, it's something I did alot when I was younger, and everybody who knows me knows I have a thing for green hair. I'm a normal person, who does normal things, just with green hair. I wanted green hair for my wedding, and totally regret I didn't have at least one streak of it, but at that time I didn't know the right hairdresser over here.
When the bride to be asked me to be her bridesmaid, I didn't have green hair. And being that she hasn't know me for a long time, she wouldn't have known my penchant for the green. She has just questioned whether it will be green for her wedding, and I don't know what to say...
I would love to do the right thing and dye it black or brown or whatever for her, but the problem is the cost. It would cost me around $200 to get it stripped and dyed brown, and then another $200 to get it back to green. I have already spent $300 on the dress, $120 on getting it fitted and am up for another $100 for shoes. Plus the present and the parties are still to come.
So, do I just bite the bullet and pay to change the hair, or just let her know nicely that it will be the same as it is now...?
Sorry, I didn't think this post would get this long!!
Re: I'm a Bridesmaid! I just have one little question...
Okay, two things.
First: PLEASE put up a close up pic of you with this green hair! That is so freaking awesome. Being a teacher, I can't really have my hair the fun colors that I sometimes want to have it; I guess I could, but it would be frowned upon. It's so sweet that you have green hair. Haha, I guess you know what I'd say about it if you were in my wedding.
Second: I would probably ask her what she prefers. If she wants it a more natural color, explain your situation. Honestly, if it's a deep green and not obnoxious, is it very noticeable? I've seen people with blue hair, but it looks almost black unless the light hits it right. Is your green similar to that?
Only at the moment it is a bit shorter and styled with a few lights streaks in it. Just like....a normal hair style....
She kind of asked with the tone in her voice hoping I would say no....
I can wash it out to the point that it is just a few streaks, but they are mostly underneath, so will show with the up-do. Although, she hasn't said how she wants our hair done yet.
First off I just want to say that your hair is super cute!!! I HATE the color green, and when you said that it was green... I was seriously like WTH????? But after seeing your picture I think it's really cool :-) It's not at all what I thought it would look like!
I would maybe send the picture to the bride and see what she thinks. I am sure that she would appreciate that you considered her thoughts about it - just be honest about it with her.
Good luck!!
OMG, this is amazing. We have been talking for months, and I would have never thought your hair was green. It's amazing. Love the shade too. In the 80's my mom was trying to die her hair black, but it was communist Poland, and she bought the die from a store that had a questionable reputation so her hair turned green too - it looked more like moss green.
Ok - do you guys have those wash-away hair dies in Australia? They stay on your hair for up to 8 washes, so like 2.5 weeks, and don't permanently change the color of your hair. That could work for you. If you have never heard of those, find a Polish neighborhood wherever you live, and any herbs/cosmetic store should have them. The brand is Wella.
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Oh Dear!! Your poor Mother. I hope it washed out okay. You will have to tell me more about growing up in communist Poland sometime.
We had Wella back in the old country (NZ), so it should be here as well. Good suggestion. If I used the black it might cover the green...
Yep, and wash away easily after that.
My mom actually kinda liked it after some time - she never cared what people said about her. It did not wash off after 8 washes though
You know, maybe her photographer could darken your hair in pictures, and who cares what it looks like all day, if the pictures show dark brown/black? Maybe that's a solution too?
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I don't care what the bride will say...I say I have never seen anyone wear green hair so well! It makes you look...like magic haha. It's so shiny and healthy.
But to try and assist, I'd suggest asking the bride if she cares, but at the same time, she asked you, and you are who/what you are period...and I feel like asking someone to dye their hair to something else when it's ALWAYS this way is sort of rude. I mean, it's a tricky thing to be sure, but IMO it's not like it's neon green and unattractive. It is a classy look, which is hard to pull off with green hair!
And if your hair is up, they probably won't even be able to tell...
I guess I'm no help, basically :-/
I was thinking this exactly. It's not like a *SCREAMING GREEN*. At my wedding the GM and DH's vests were all a light minty green and in the pictures they turned out anywhere from sun-bleached just barely green to almost a light brown. I'm sure it would be the same in hers.
If it were me, I would ask the bride what she thinks. If she doesn't mind, great, if she does, maybe one of those comb-in colors that washes out with shampoo. That would be super easy to get away with with an up-do. Heck, you could even get some of that colored hairspray they sell around Halloween and no one would be the wiser.
1. your hair looks awesome.
2. if your bride thinks otherwise, gracefully bow out. if she can't have you standing up for her for the right reason (ie, you love and support her and her betrothed), then tant pis.
Thanks guys, you are always so supportive! And I'm glad you like my hair!!
I didn't get a chance to talk to the bride in person yesterday as planned, she had had some bad news and I didn't want to add to the pile.
Will head to the mall today and look into one of the coloured rinses. I think I will let her know I have that option and give her the choice.