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saying you wish u had met your SIL before your wife because things would have been different?!
Is it just me or is that like the meanest thing?
My brother said that about his wife. And now I feel torn. Of course I won't tell her cause that would hurt her and she is my best friend. But should I talk to my brother about it??
You should know that my brother didn't tell me. He had a few too many and spilled it to my husband. So I can't really tell my brother cause I'm not supposed to know.
The SIL is the wife of his wife's brother. And they go out all the time. I don't know how i feel about that. Should they be spending that much time together?
I understand that he feels attracted to her. I do and that's totally fine. But by the time you actually tell someone something like he did( typsy or not) it's a bit more that just physical attraction .Or am I imagining everything? I hope I am!
Re: saying you wish u had met your SIL before your wife because things would have been different?!
Wait, so your brother told your H that we would rather be with/married to his wife's brother's wife instead of his own?
Your brother is either too immature to be married or is miserable in his marriage. Either way, he is taking it out on the person that he stood up in front of friends and family and promised to support.
I don't think you are imaging anything. I think your brother is a total f*cking ass.
I'm actually sort of curious as to how he treats her. And how does he treat you?
Stay out of it.
On one hand, yes, I think your brother sounds immature and this could be trouble brewing. And I would say if you ever see anything yourself or hear anything from him directly, I'd have no qualms saying "Dude- think about what you're saying...".
But at the same time, it could be a stupid fleeting comment that isn't quite as serious as it seems to you. Many people feel that once you're married, you should basically be blind, deaf, and dumb when it comes to finding other people attractive. Your brother may find her attractive but be thinking "I'm a bad person for thinking this" and "confessed" to your DH when it's really nothing more than some silly crush he has.
I've been w/ my DH for 20 years. Very happy, blah blah blah. But I've met people throughout the years that I've thought "If I weren't w/ my DH, I'd be interested in this person". It doesn't mean I want to actually be w/ them, it doesn't mean I'm thinking of leaving my DH, it doesn't mean anything other than the literal words I said - "IF I were single, I'd be interested in this person".
What you brother said may have actually not been anything more serious than that.
Not saying ignore it, but it may or may not be "serious". Don't put too much weight on his drunken words until you have more to go on.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I second this.
I agree. Stay out of it. That is ugly just in the words and you do not want to be a part of it.
On that note - its creepy to read this post after watching Something Borrowed last night. Good movie - check it out lol.
Don't say anything. Mind your own business and stay out of it. Because you didn't hear it firsthand so you really don't know exactly what was said or in what context or in what tone (and I have no clue why your husband felt the need to tell you this in the first place), it's something that was said during drinking, and it's absolutely none of your business.
Seriously, forget about it and keep your mouth shut.
he wasn't drunk, i said he was typsy . he let it slip...
i don't think he's immature, i just think he's stupid enough to think that with his SIL it all would have been better. the grass is greener on the other side or something like that. my brother and his wife are a good couple,they have fights but who doesn't right. she's as gorgeous as the SIL and as nice too. Its like my brother thinks that with his wife he's leading a second best life instead of THE best. It's so ungrateful
he thought it was a really weird remark, but at the time he was so surprised that he was just speechless. my husband asked me a few days later " if someone said that about his wife, is that a weird thing to say?" . So he was concerned as well.
Think whatever you want about it, but you'd be a fool and a gigantic buttinsky to bring this up with them.
Seriously, let it go. It doesn't concern you.
i third this. as tough as it might be you and dh need to ignore.