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MIL. Help.
DH's mom was attacked last week in her home. She doesn't remember exactly what happened doctors believe she blocked it out, however, SIL was at the house when it happened and heard something going on in her moms room and went to go see what was wrong when she saw her thrown across the room naked but couldn't see who the attacker was. Scary stuff... there is more to the story but i wont get into details. SIL called the police and they admitted MIL into the hospital where she spent the next 3 days.
The point of this post: FIL works in the oil field 7 days at a time in NM and he leaves on Monday around noon. Their kids (minus DH) are in high school and will be in school on Monday till about 4. MIL hasn't been sleeping much since all of this happened and hasn't been comfortable being by her self for any amount of time. I was thinking about asking her to lunch to get her out of the house and so she wont be alone.
The issue: She has been trying to convince me that she is fine but starts crying then hurries to get off the phone. I don't think she really wants my help, or is just really embarrassed about the whole thing. I guess the big issue is I don't want her to feel uncomfortable or feel like a charity case, but I'm worried about her being alone rite now when shes so scared in her own home.
Sorry this is so long, I just don't know how to approach the situation.
Re: MIL. Help.
Do you live near her? I definitely think you should go have lunch with her at the very least. If she doesn't want to leave the house then just visit her at home. At least then she'll know you're there for her if she needs anything. Sometimes people are more likely to talk about what's going on in person than on the phone.
Is she getting a security system installed? A dog? Nothing's going to un-do what happened, but improving security in her home for the future might help her feel safer.
I hope she's OK. Good luck.
The same thing happened to my sister's roomate when they were in college. Absolutely terrifying.
First thing -- do the police know who did it? Can they possibly provide an officer in a car to watch over the house when it's dark? It sounds like at a minimum, a major home security overhaul is in order -- locks on the windows, chain locks on the doors, motion sensor lighting, etc.
I would try to do whatever you can to keep your FMIL company -- take her out to lunch, or eat lunch with her at her house. She probably won't ask you to, but I'm sure she will appreciate if you do:-)
I would see if she wants to go to lunch with you and then maybe treat her to a pedicure or something fun.
I'm really sorry that this happened. I would suggest getting an alarm system and maybe seeing if FIL will allow the dog in the house when he isn't home. I know having Simon in the house with me makes me feel better even though all he can do is bark at someone since he is so little.