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I can't take it anymore
sorry this is so long.... just needed to vent
I'm losing patience. Its effecting some of the most important people to me. I don't really think its their fault either. They're just kids. But they don't listen at all. They are mostly concerned about getting their own way and I just can't take it anymore. Everything is "I want to / I don't want to" and WHY and But I just wanted to _________ and if you tell them no, they cry and say you're mean. It just gets old every single time I see them. The 6 year old tonight wiped her mouth on my brothers shirt after eating ice cream. after saying she was going to 3 times and he said no, dont do that 3 times. and he obviously got upset at the chocolate stain on his sleeve and just said "seriously?" in a mad tone. she cried and locked herself in the bathroom for like 20 minutes and just wanted to " be by herself" who gets away with this????? And her father said that my brother overreacted. No your child doesn't listen! I'd never let my kids do that and get away with it. Never apologized to him or anything.
Today I was also decorating for a surprise party for my mom. I let the kids set up streamers, hang happy birthday signs and put the balloons up. I was going to put the fragile decorations together that are easily ripped. and she got upset that " I never let her help with anything" and "Aunt Kasey never wants me around."
Seriously?? I know she's 6 but c'mon. SHE"S 6! her mom is letting her be a brat. no one will discipline her. so we have to. and its not my place. or my job.
and my nephew who is almost 5 got upset when he wanted to put the candles on the birthday cake and i only let him do one and my niece do one. why do they think they get to do everything?? and cry if they don't get there way? and again their mom gave in because they were crying. I said you aren't listening, youre being impatient and that is not how to get what you want. But really it is since their mom lets them do ANYTHING! its ridiculous. I love love love my niece and nephew but they are driving me crazy. I had to leave the room because it was crazyness. why are you rewarding them for acting poorly?????????? I know they are kids, but they are NEVER going to learn this way. theyre going to grow up spoiled and whiny and brats.
NO ThankYou~!
Re: I can't take it anymore
These aren't your kids, right? Quit worrying about who's not disciplining them how much, and enjoy your day. Let their parents raise them. You'll be fine, the kids'll be fine, everyone will be fine.
Why are you spending so much time with them? If they're not your kids, you don't HAVE to, so stop. Seriously.
Don't spend as much time with them.
This exactly.
Just wait until they're teens. That will be a load of fun.
Kids are the best form of birth control. Did you notice that?:)
I personally woud have handed the kid a napkin and said "Here's a napkin; wipe your mouth on this". What's the big deal?
So, don't have them then.
I want to sympathize with you, but your post is so whiny that it's hard. I mean, you kind of sound like one of the little kids here.
If they drive you so crazy, don't spend so much time with them. Or just ignore them when you do. It's not that hard.
Don't spend time with them. That's the beauty of OPK (Other People's Kids) -- you have the choice whether or not to be around them.
so you don't like kids but you think you'll be a better parent....
I don't have kids, but I know enough about them to know that I can't judge someone until I'm in their shows.
I highly disagree. I have a niece and nephew who are similar ages and they would NEVER be allowed to act this way. I constantly praise my brother and SIL for being amazing parents and raising truly well-behaved children. Sure, I think 5 and 6 year olds are prone to crying and a few temper issues at times, but if an adult says "no", and the child wipes her ice cream filled mouth on someone's clothing and nothing is done, this is a parenting issue.
I'm not sure there's a solution to your problem that's easy, but I just wanted to tell you I agree with what you're dealing with - it's inappropriate and completely out of line for these kids to be acting this way.