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non-clicky poll: living with someone else
Would you and H ever consider living with someone else (renting a room in your house to someone, renting an apartment with someone else, etc)? Under what circumstances? What would you be willing to give up before resorting to this?
Re: non-clicky poll: living with someone else
The only way we'd do it is if:
A) A close friend/family member really needed a place to stay temporarily
Basically, desperation would have to come into play somehow.
Ditto. DH and I talked a while back about this, and it pretty much came down to the same thing. His biggest issues were dealing with TV time and all the typical roommate issues, but also adding kids to the mix. As in, our guest bedroom is on the same side of the house as the boys' bedroom, and it would be unfair for someone to have to share that bathroom and possibly get woke up at night and early in the mornings. Also, as a married couple, there's just too much privacy lost unless absolutely necessary.
"My 101 List - Updating asap, I swear!
We do this now and it's not a big deal in our situation. We have had the same roommate with us for over 2 years, and he is quiet, pays rent on time, and we never have problems with the shared areas (other than the occasional unwashed dish). As a bonus, he watches our dog when we go out of town.
At this point in our lives, the only reason he is still around is because he is SUCH a good roommate. When this lease is up we will more than likely go our separate ways since DD will be 1 at that point.
I would definitely not be looking to get another roommate at this point unless someone really needed it or we needed the money very badly.
It would have to be an absolute necessity for me to agree to this. I have a thing about having people in my space. Dh actually brought this up once before we were married and I vetoed it.
What would I give up before resorting this? I would go back to work after the baby is born instead of staying home. I would cancel our cable. I would either get rid of the data plans on our phone or our home internet. Stop eating out. I just really wouldn't want someone else living with us. I feel off even when we have someone stay with us for a few days.
I wouldn't offer the room to anyone, unless they asked.
ENNNNNNNN
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Just to add, both us and BIL/SIL believe that at some point, their mother will assume that she can move in with either one of us. She has a long, long history of poor monetary and relationship decisions and hasn't saved for retirement. She recently took an 'early retirement' despite only having worked temp/part time jobs for years because she's 'tired'. Every time she makes a poor decision like that, DH and BIL both remind her that she cannot count on moving in with us or us bailing her out financially because we both have young children that have to get through college. Despite saying that at least 3x a year, we're all pretty sure that she'll eventually ask anyway.
No, just some family if the situation arose that required it...but even then, not every family member.
When my parents sold their l.a. house, before they bought their next house, they moved in with DH and me for about 5 weeks. It was a temporary situation from the start and DH and I were both ok with it. My parents, since retiring, have had extended stays with us here in FL. It really helped us out when James was going through his health issues and couldn't go to daycare for about 6 weeks. I don't know if I'd consider that living with us really though.
My Ovulation Chart
Since our house is so small, we do not have an extra room available to rent out. I think our financial situation would have to get pretty bad (ie, being behind on bills, etc) before we would resort to this. I would be willing to give up cable, the gym and I would ask DH to give up his massage membership. I would also try to figure out if we could manage as a one car family.
If a relative were in a situation in which they needed to stay with us for a while, I might consider it, but it depends on the circumstances. If they dug themselves into a hole for stupid reasons, I would be hesitant to assist and essentially be an enabler.
How is it that my BABY is going to be 3?
BFP-2/25/11; 8 Wk U/S-3/25/11-No HB, measured 6.5 wks; D&C