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Living close to family... WWYD?

The countdown is on until I land in LA!  We have plans to stay with my cousin and his wife when we arrive, and they've also been on the lookout for apartments for rent in their neighborhood, which we love and is at the top of our list for areas to live.

Today my cousin e-mailed me to say that a place in their building is opening up.  It fits all the criteria of what we're looking for, but it's also just a 4 unit building, meaning we'll be in really close proximity to my cousin and his wife.

Don't get me wrong, I love both of them dearly, I think of them like another brother and sister in law, but I'm a little nervous about the lack of privacy that may lead to... what would you do? 

Now jumping domestically.

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Re: Living close to family... WWYD?

  • I think if it's in an area you like and are somewhat familiar with, I'd go ahead and sign a one year lease there and see how it goes. 

    I personally prefer to have a place of my own to settle down into when I move. The moves I've done that required staying with family and friends while finding a place always seemed a bit more stressful.

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  • I would do it. I lived next to my BIL for 2 years while we were in college, and I currently live a few blocks from him. You'll hang out more but you will also get into a routine where you'll have your own time too. If it's a great neighborhood I wouldn't hesitate.
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  • I would do it only if you feel you can be very open and honest with them. I would also worry about the possible lack of privacy, assumptions about you joining them when they have plans or vice versa. If they are the kind of people who won't feel jilted if you venture out on your own without them, or make plans without including them, then I think it would be fine.
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  • I think you really need to evaluate where you are in your life and where they are in theirs.  For me, that would be way too close, but it just depends on your relationship.  Ask yourself if these are people you can see yourselves spending 50-75% of your non-alone time with.  If not, then I wouldn't do it.
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  • I think I'd do it, assuming I had a good relationship with them (which it sounds like you do). The four of you may spend a few weeks at first figuring out how often you want to hang out, but like eeeva said, you'll eventually get into the swing of things where you're all comfortable with how much you see each other.

    Actually, V's cousin lives down the street from us. I know it's not the same as living in the same building. It's nice to have someone nearby that we can always call up and say "Hey, you want to hang out tonight?" but I've never felt intruded upon either.

    Idunno... I guess it's a personal comfort thing. Honestly, unless I had any issues with said cousin, it wouldn't even have occurred to me to think twice about it. You could at least look at the place while you think about it some more, maybe?

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  • I agree with everyone else...it depends on the relationship you have and whether you think they will respect boundaries. 

    You couldn't pay me enough to live near some of my cousins (one in particular) but there are a couple that I wouldn't mind.  In college we lived right next door to my aunt and uncle, but we rarely saw them unless there was a big family thing.  However, it was nice to know that if I needed anything I could just go over...

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  • As my SIL says, 'You can do anything for a year.'  If you end up completely hate then sublease and move.  Just make sure you lay out your boundaries when you move it.

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  • Thanks for all the advice ladies!  We definitely have a really good relationship with them, and if anything I think they're more private that we are, so maybe it will work out.

    Either way I'm going to keep in in mind but not commit to anything until we look around for a bit and see what else is out there. 

    Now jumping domestically.

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    Well that was a crazy couple of years.

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