September 2008 Weddings
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Advice for the bride-three years ago....
In our midst of unpacking this weekend, I came across a box my sister had at my bridal shower that was "advice for the bride". I re-read some of the stuff and it was cool to look back three years ago and have all that advice hold true to this day.
So ladies, if we were to get married in 2011, what advice would we have for ourselves? Do you remember any of the "advice" family and friends gave you?
I would like to hear everyone's input!!!
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Re: Advice for the bride-three years ago....
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I have a few:
Ha! Funny how I put don't go to bed angry.
I also tell people it's ok to go to bed angry. You wake up refreshed with a clearer mind and can finish/resolve the argument in the morning. I've only slept in the guest room once, it was relatively recently, and I don't even remember why, but I.was MAD, that much I do remember.
I also say:
1) Be nice to each other.
2) Don't forget to keep dating
3) His/Her sinks in the bathroom is a must
4) Say I love you every day.
1. Pick your battles.
2. Don't forget to take time out for each other/remember there was a reason you fell in love with each other.
3. Separate hobbies/friends.
4. Don't fight dirty.
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Definately choose your battles.
We did one of those guest books with the fill in the blank pages, and my cousin's advice was "Divide and conquer." Not sure if he was talking about chores or what! Granted, he was like 15! Makes me laugh whenever I read it though.
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I agree!
Time apart is also a good thing. Sometimes I think DH's 24 hour shifts save our marriage!
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Earplugs have saved my marriage....and sometimes sleeping in the guest room when your SO is snoring/restless/otherwise annoyingly keeping you awake.
Don't expect your partner to change...don't think you can 'fix' him or her. They are who they are. If your SO never put his/her dishes in the sink before, it's probably not likely to happen now. Either decide to get over it, or make it a big issue, but like others have said, pick your battles.
Date night doesn't have to be expensive.
Gifts don't have to cost anything.
Have some hobbies and friends of your own. Time apart does make the heart grow fonder.
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Granted, my situation isn't a marriage, but I have to agree. I love FF's work schedule and enjoy having time to myself. I love being with him, but I also love that there's "built in" time apart from each other as well.
I agree with this!!!
Definitely.
and yes, earplugs