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Moms--Daddy Aversion in Toddlers
DD has always preferred me--not sure if its the usual mom bond, lengthy breastfeeding sessions, or my natural charm, but facts are facts. However, in the last couple months she has developed a serious aversion to DH for no apparent reason. She doesnt want him to hold her, rarely gives him hugs or kisses, if he sits next to her on the couch or tries to play with her on the floor she will kick him, move across the room, run screaming to me, or say "stop"/"no daddy" etc.
Please tell me this is a short lived phase? Do we just ignore it and deal until it passes? Do I discipline the (literal) kicking and screaming? WWYD?
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Re: Moms--Daddy Aversion in Toddlers
I have a similar situation with my 16 month old and I think it's just because he's around me more. If we're both home together he wants nothing to do with DH. He doesn't kick him away but he will scream when he picks him up and he's reaching out for me. I have found that if I leave them alone (I actually have to to leave the house) they are fine together. If I go sit in the bedroom and leave them alone in the living room to play he knows I'm home and he's cranky and wandering around crying looking for me.
It's tough, my husband gets upset about it. I'm hoping it's just a phase that he's so clingy with me.
no experience here but i am sure it is just a phase. our little man goes back and forth with who he wants to comfort him, i am currently in the lead. but next week i will likely be taking a back seat to dh since he is traveling for business for a few days, plus i have boogie sucking duty.
good luck! maybe leaving the house for short periods is a good idea. like running to the store, or even just walking around the neighborhood and grabbing a coffee.
My girls both prefer me to DH all the time, unless I am not home. If they are both crying they both want me even if DH is there and he offers to hold them. Nope, both are hanging on me. Lauryn wont even let DH get her out of the bath and sometimes she wont even let him get her out of the car seat if she sees me.
of course the only time they ask for him is as soon as he walks out the door. Never fails. I keep hoping it is a phase but this has been going on forever and doesnt seem to be changing anytime soon.
I agree. DH can try to give her a goodnight hug and kiss multiple times and she wants nothing to do with it. The minute he leaves the room she shrugs her shoulders and throws up her hands and says "daddy?" and gets all sad looking at the door! I think i just need to leave more often and make them spend time together--or they should go somewhere together--and she'll realize that daddy's okay too. Its just so bizarre and frustrating because the source of the behavior is so mysterious.