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Question for those that attend church with LO
We have been visiting churches for the past month, and I've been very disappointed in the nurseries. Maybe my expectations are too high.
At our old church (which we we kept the nursery during service at least once a month), we never had any issues leaving Will. He would stay for both Sunday school and service. I would often peek in on him and he was always having fun. We were called to come get him once in almost a year. We never called parents when we kept the nursery. Of course some kids would be fussy, but you would do what ever it took to make then happy.
We've been called to come get him the past three Sundays at churches we've been visiting.
If he was truly upset and they had tried to comfort him then I wouldn't mind at all. Two of three times, he wasn't even fussing when I came to get him. He hadn't been changed or given a bottle. I just feel like they aren't even trying.
Yesterday, we ran into some friends that said they get called every Sunday to get their child. Is this the norm? If you take your child to church do you have to leave the service every Sunday to get your child? This makes me just want to stay home. : (
Sorry this has been so long...
Re: Question for those that attend church with LO
Ok, I don't have a LO but I worked in the nursery since I was about 15. At our last church (mega church) I worked in the 2 year old class. When promotion Sunday hit we always had some criers because they weren't even walking yet but RARELY did we page parents (we have pagers). We had more than 1 volunteer in each room and if we had a crier, one of the volunteers would take the criers from each room in this stroller thingy that holds 6 kids and walk around with them to see fishes etc.
I realize not all churches have the manpower to do this but we did everything we could to placate the child. Distraction, feed, change etc. Crackers can fix a lot!
So, I don't think it's normal honestly. I'm not a parent but as a volunteer especially with a visitor, our goal was to keep the parents in the service.
PCOS and Endo
Ovarian drilling and endo removed 1/3/12
BFP - 3/27/12
Beta's 11, 14, 57, 637, 2800
Sono showed no baby and teeny tiny sac. Waiting to M/C naturally.
Okay, so I am glad that I am not crazy. We have been visiting very large churches that should be able to deal with the situation. I guess that we will keep trying other churches...
Yeah, I would think larger churches would be better than smaller churches just because they have more people that volunteer. Our church is like the 20th biggest in the nation - around 15,000 members - so the amount of kids we had was huge but we had lots of volunteers too.
I just kind of feel like what's the point if you have to page the parents all the time? We had some parents that had a hard time leaving if their child was crying and we tried to shoo them out because 9/10 times they stop after they leave. If Will was upset, did they try to figure out why?
The other thing too is maybe try again because the same volunteers may not be there. We had A/B Sundays and only volunteered on B weeks. So, there could be different people there next time that are better with Will.
PCOS and Endo
Ovarian drilling and endo removed 1/3/12
BFP - 3/27/12
Beta's 11, 14, 57, 637, 2800
Sono showed no baby and teeny tiny sac. Waiting to M/C naturally.
When we were visiting a very small country church, I had to leave the service and stay in the nursery with Nate the whole time. I think they had no idea how to handle a 3 month old... They fed him 6 oz of water instead of mixing the formula into it, and he was much too young to be drinking water. Our church has only come to get us twice - once when Nate was sick and we had to take him home, and once when he was inconsolable, it took even me a long time to calm him down that time.
Our church has paid nursery workers in addition to volunteers. It really makes a difference having caregivers who are trained to take care of babies and toddlers. But I think they're more cautious with visitors' babies, since they don't know them. Still, the nursery workers should be able to handle fussies without wanting to go get the parents.