September 2008 Weddings
Kasi80
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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BC Discussion Question #5
"How do you feel about single parents adopting children? What kind of, if any, additional requirements do you think should be put on single parents before they can adopt? How do you feel about open adoption? Is it better or worse for children? Is it better or worse for the adoptive parents? The biological parents? At what age do you think a child should be told they are adopted?"
CRAFTY ME
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Re: BC Discussion Question #5
How do you feel about single parents adopting children? I truly don't see anything wrong with this. I am not a huge believer in every child needs two parents. WIth my upbringing being the way it was I wish I only had one parent that raised me.
What kind of, if any, additional requirements do you think should be put on single parents before they can adopt? There shouldn't be any extra stipulations. If the parent can financially support a child and give it the love and care he or she needs there shouldn't be a problem.
How do you feel about open adoption? Is it better or worse for children? I think an open adoption wouldn't be so bad. I know if I were a child that was adopted I would want to know the reasons behind why I was put up for adoption and having an open adoption would make it easier.
Is it better or worse for the adoptive parents? The biological parents? I think it would be tough for both sets of parents involved.
At what age do you think a child should be told they are adopted?" I would say at an age where they can understand what that means. Maybe even from day one. I really don't know. That is a tough one.
CRAFTY ME
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How do you feel about single parents adopting children? I am okay with it provided the parent has the financial ability to support raising a child solo and a support system when they need to vent/childcare/etc.
What kind of, if any, additional requirements do you think should be put on single parents before they can adopt? They should just fill out applications like any other couple with financial info proving they are stable (but let's face it even financial positions can change especially in this economy!), sane, and not criminals.
How do you feel about open adoption? Is it better or worse for children? I think it depends on the birth parents/parents/child in the particular situation. I have a semi-open adoption with my son where we exchange letters, pictures, gifts twice a year (his birthday and Christmas), but none of us have ever met and it works well for us. I beleive they need some separation from me to get the experienc of raising their son as their own without my interference and confusing things. But, I've seen fully open adoptions that work really well, too. It just wasn't for me as emotionally, it would've been a million times worse to heal after the adoption for me. My parents have pretty much closed adoptions with my younger siblings. Their birthparents don't care for pics or updates and it is hard on my sister now that she's come of age (she'll be 18 in Dec). She loves my mom as her mom, but still has a feeling of abandonment from her mom as to the "why".
Is it better or worse for the adoptive parents? The biological parents? It depends on the people involved. Emotionally, I couldn't have handled a fully open adoption and the thought of a fully closed adoption and not knowing how well he's doing makes me shudder. I think my son's birth parents were fine with it if we went either route as they were just so thankful to get the gift of a baby of their own.
At what age do you think a child should be told they are adopted?" It depends on the child. A fragile one, probably wouldn't do well knowing from the beginning, but I think your average little one could grasp the concept from a much earlier age than most people realize. My parents had no choice, but to explain adoption to my siblings from early on as they are both mixed (African American and white) while my parents are not, so the difference was obvious. As for my son, she kept a memory box for him with my letters at his birth to him and photos of his birthdad and I and she showed it to him when she felt he was ready which was pretty early on. He knows he grew in me, but his adoptive mom is his true mother. He calls me Ms. Heather.