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FB WTF.
I mentioned in the good morning thread that a friend of mine posted a FB status about her husband cheating on her - which is sad, but I also will never understand why people put this stuff on FB. Anyway, the following comment was posted, which really pisses me off:
It's never easy finding out ur partner is cheating whether husband or boyfriend.... Now, men will be men n lets face the fact they WILL cheat whether once,twice or many times even tho they know its wrong. These women out there don't make it any easier for them...they WILL push themselves unto them even tho they kno the man is in a relationship. 2 weeks and he claims he has feelings for her....yes he may have feelings for her but what kind of feelings???? How long is tht feeling going to last for???? He may have tried to end it but knowing how our species can be where they will call n try to convince him not to end it. The truth is.....our men are weak at times and when they kno they have a good woman who loves and cares for them,they tend to take advantage of us. However, i would let him know how hurt i am...actually let him see what it has done to me,tell him its over,get out of his sight,don't answer his calls or texts,let him feels what its like not having me around and when he comes to his senses he WILL REGRET everything he did and trust me he's gonna be even a better man BUT don't give in easily....let him work really hard...let him sweat!! Again men will be men...they are weak,stupid at times and awful!!!
and then, after someone tried to say not all men are like that:
I agree with u xxx....he
does deserve a chance but let him work hard for that chance...let him
feels what its like to lose a wonderful woman so he doesn't do it
again.xxx....while we know what the actions of REAL "man" is or
should be.... We can't deny the fact that they do mess up at some point.
Show me the "man" who has NEVER cheated or messed up
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give me a break. Honest men DO exist, and stop trying to pull this, 'If your man says he didn't cheat, he's lying' crap.
Re: FB WTF.
If only.
I keep going back and forth - composing comments, then deciding to stay out of it. Pretty sure I'm not posting anything, but it makes me feel better to write something out. I came here to vent without actually saying anything on FB
Bitter much? (FB commenter, not you).
and I agree that people way overshare - about stuff they'd probably not talk about in a face-to-face convo w/ their friends & family, but okay to tell them online? Let me send you a washline cuz FB is no place to air your dirty laundry.
LOVE this.
And totally agree about the bitterness; most of my mental 'comments' run along the lines of "I'm sorry that you've had such bad experiences, but all men aren't like that."
Also, I'm very surprised my friend has been posting stuff like this. We're not super-close, but she was one of my better friends in my grad program and we spent a ton of time together during the first two years of school. Her online persona is VERY different from the girl I know. And...I know this is super-judgy, but I am constantly surprised by how trashy her other FB friends seem based on the things they say and how they type. I know that a lot of the misspellings are 'cool' and nowadays aren't necessarily an indication of intelligence/education, but it's just so pervasive, and many of them have so much immature drama!
TTC since 08/2010
Anovulatory since at least 12/2010 (probably longer, unDx)
Dx PCOS 3/2012
SA 5/25/12--normal
June 2012--50mg clomid+TI--BFN
July 2012--50mg clomid+Ovidrel+TI--BFN, lining at 5mm
August 2012--5mg femara+Ovidrel+TI
awww.....looks like a typical case of someone who is pretty below average intelligence trying to be helpful. That poor person thinks they are making the situation easier.
Spewing nonsense. First of all, until you know all the particulars (and outsiders rarely ever find out) people should refrain from speculating what is going through someone else's head. You never know what's going on behind closed doors.
When I left my ex-husband, he told everyone that I was leaving for another man and everyone felt sorry for him. It would have been easy me for to broadcast to his whole family and all his friends that he was trolling for sex with men online, but I didn't. Guess who outsiders sided with?
Not saying that your friend is trolling for sex online hahahha. I'm just saying that people should be careful not to assign blame and not try to guess what's happening.
TTC since 2010
Me: 36, slightly elevated FSH. Everything else (hysterescopy, HSG, b/w) normal.
DH:30, with super sperm? >200mil post wash
BFP #1 - May 2011 - m/c @ 8weeks
IUI #1 - July 26 2012 - Femara = BFN
Suprise BFP Jan 15 2013. Hope this one sticks!