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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
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When did you know you were in love?
So its going to be a very stressful weekend with work and side weddings that I am a working, so I thought a poll might be nice since I have love on the brain.
When did you first know you were in love?
Was it a specific moment or event that lead to it?
During rough times or slumps how do you keep your love alive?
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Re: When did you know you were in love?
When did you first know you were in love? Was it a specific moment or event that lead to it? DH and I had been best friends for awhile before we began dating. I had been quietly developing feelings for him, but didn't want to mess up what we had, and didn't know how he felt (although, in hindsight, it was obvious). One night we were kicking back on his bed together watching a movie, and after it had ended we found ourselves kissing. It was completely unplanned and unexpected, and if I close my eyes I can still feel that electricity that shot through my body in that moment. We didn't actually talk about it for a couple of days, but in that time I realized that I was in love with him (and not just in like). I had this sense, even then at the age of 17, that if we decided to start officially dating, that this would be it -- he was the man I knew I'd marry.
During rough times or slumps how do you keep your love alive? We've been together nearly 14 years, so we know very well that rough times come and go, and always will. We have learned that sometimes you may not feel "in love" (and that it's natural to lose that feeling, particularly in times of difficulty and conflict), but that truly loving your partner is a choice that you have to decide to make. You have to act in loving ways, even if you don't feel it, and eventually the feelings of love will return. Too many people, I think, believe that love is something you have to "just feel" for it to be real, and throw away relationships that could have been happy and successful because they "just don't feel like they're in love anymore". But love is more than a feeling -- true love is in your actions. And you can't wait around for the other person to start acting -- you have to take responsibility for your own actions, and be patient while the other person catches up.
We've also learned that things like honesty/trust, forgiveness and commitment are choices too, exactly like with love. It may not be easy, but where you put the effort is where you reap the greatest rewards. We've gone through some things that likely would have destroyed most other couples, yet came through the other side better and stronger than ever before because we chose to do what it took to make that happen.
When did you first know you were in love?
H and I had been dating a couple of months when I knew. We had started dating during our sophomore year of college and we started dating about 4 weeks before school ended and I had to go back home for the summer. We were apart most of the summer and we spent a lot of time calling each other or IMing. The more we talked, the more I missed him and my heart ached. I also knew when he annoyed the crap out of me but I didn't want anyone else annoying me the way he did=).
Was it a specific moment or event that lead to it?
There really wasn't a specific moment but something that led up over time.
During rough times or slumps how do you keep your love alive?
We've only been married for four years so we haven't been through too rough of times. I would say that it's important for us to learn to put God first in our relationship and then put each other first, even when we have kids. Love is not some just fuzzy feeling but it's a choice.
When did you first know you were in love? DH said he knew within the first few months that I was the one for him. It took me about 6 months to tell him that I loved him, he knew it but I didn't say those three little words.
Was it a specific moment or event that lead to it? He surprised me with flowers one day at work (he admits he was trying to get me to say "I love you"), but I think it was just time and getting to know him that lead up to it.
During rough times or slumps how do you keep your love alive? Granted we're still in the "newlywed" stage but since dating, we've had a few little bumps in the road but we overcame it. At times, when DH can sense that I'm really stressed, he'll start rubbing my shoulders and feet to help get my mind off something. Other times I think about why i married him, why we fell in love with each other. We're both grateful for one another.
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When did you first know you were in love? About 6 months into dating
Was it a specific moment or event that lead to it? Yes, it was when he sang to me in Fenton's. He has a terrible singing voice but that's what made it cute. He didn't care that he looked silly.
During rough times or slumps how do you keep your love alive? Well, we've been together for 10 years now and we have been through A LOT together, including some really sh!tty times. The love part never seems to a problem.
But of course it can be hard, very hard when things get rough. I don't know, we just try to be supportive of each other and also give each other space when we need it. Of course, we fight sometimes but we try to practice not going to bed angry. We try to work things out and not let things fester.
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