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XP from PCE lets spice things up in here
Do you feel sorry for the woman in the story?
http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/57545124.aspx
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Re: XP from PCE lets spice things up in here
i think she's definitely in a bad situation....BUT leaving your kids in the car isn't really ever the best option. if she's just stocking stuff, can they come in and just sit in a corner somewhere?
plus...what if the car died...and then the kids did?
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Maybe not any other ovbious options but I think she could have come up with at least 3 better choices. Idea 1. Go the a Family Y, sign the kids in the kids club and fake like you are taking tour of the facility. Idea 2. Call a local church "I'm in a bind, I have no options, I have to go to work. Can I drop my kids off for an hour?" Idea 3. Call employer, "My babysitter backed out last minute, I don't have any other options for someone to watch my children. Can they come in the store with me today?"
I would be slightly more comfortable if the oldest child was older than 6. If (s)he was 8 or 9 I would think they could make decent decisions if something went wrong, like if the battery died or one of the little kids had an emergency.
But honestly though, 15 minutes in an air conditioned, locked car? I don't think it's that terrible. The 'what-ifs' are bad but none of those things happened.
I had no idea you could do that at the Y and I am sure this Mom didn't know either. Her work day was way longer than an hour, and who's to say the places she would have called would have said yes? I seriously doubt her employer would have been cool with her bringing her children in the stores of their customers. They would have most likely told her to not work which this woman could not afford to do. It's also pretty telling that the woman who works with low income woman who need childcare said she is not surprised by this story.
If worse comes to worse, you call in sick and pray they don't fire you. You don't have to tell them you don't have a baby sitter. Call, say you are puking your brains out and can't come in. I just don't think leaving your kids in the car at several different grocery stores throughout the day is an "option".
My question is why did she move to Nocross knowing she had no help in the area? When you have 3 kids these are things you have to arrange and prepare for before you move.
There are many people who cannot afford to miss a days work and not every place will pay you sick time.
Regarding your questions about her moving to Norcross it could either be a result of where she found a job or just bad planning. I mean she did just have to bail herself out of jail so maybe she makes bad choices?
i think if this is the case....then you know you're gonna have to pick the lesser of two evils. do you leave the kids at home and pray nothing happens? or bring them and pray no one turns you in?
they both SUCK, but that's the reality for a lot of people in america. do i feel bad for them? yes. do i think the system sucks? yep. do i think whoever called the cops pulled a d!ck move? yep.
but it is what it is...unless there are MAJOR changes in the way things are run in this country, that's how it's gonna go down.
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Agreed. Also I wasn't trying to give anyone the impression I think leaving kids in the car is cool but I am sure she had no other choice. I just continue to thank God I am not in such a situation.
I just don't get the "I tired everything in my power to find an alternate solution" vibe from her (I saw the story on the news last night, I'm not just taking it from the article). She took a job knowing she would have to work weekends so even if she could afford a daycare center, that wouldn't be an option on the weekend. Her neighbor had also said she wouldn't take care of them Sunday because of church. She obviously hadn't tried to secure a back up plan.
In the story I feel like she tries to play it off like they were only alone for 30 minutes but it was her TENTH stop of the day. So ten different times she left her kids in a parking lot alone. She's lucky she managed to work her entire shift before getting arrested.
Having to bail herself out of jail was surely at least if not more expensive than a day worth of pay and now she'll probably have to take time off to attend court hearings. Calling in sick would have been less of a financial hardship than the path she took. (unless of course she got fired)
The bailing herself out was unrelated to this incident.
I think she actually did try everything in her power based. Were there more options out there? I believe so based on the responses, however she was most likely unaware of those choices and didn't attempt those options as a result.
And this is why a lot of people struggle because they really do not know HOW or WHERE to find help, until something bad happens (like you leave your kids in the car). And I highly doubt she up and chose Norcross to find a job. It was probably the only job she could secure.
I think if I had 3 kids I would probably be unable to afford daycare and then unable to work. That's gotta be a hard choice if you are a single parent.
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How was that unrelated to this incident? She said she spent her September rent money on bail.
Yes, I feel bad for her. I can't imagine why anyone thinks she makes enough money to support 3 children under 5 by setting up displays. The system has to change so that single moms can get the support they need to work. Realistically, its not okay to leave your child with just anyone so letting just anyone babysit them could have resulted in the same outcome.
As an employer, I wouldn't feel bad for her. I probably wouldn't fire her for one sick day but lets be real, with 3 kids under 5, this was just the beginning of an attendance issue.~~~MARRIED BIO~~~
Uh, I'm pretty sure you aren't SUPPOSED to do that at a gym but I was just saying, if you're desperate enough to leave your kids in the car you at least leave them in a room with adult supervision. I was *sorta* kidding.