Buying A Home
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Sellers: How to stay positive?
I feel like the process of keeping our condo on the market is getting to me (depressed, sad at times.) It probably doesn't help that my H has been away for 4 months and has one more to go (He comes home on weekends.) So, I am doing this by myself with a toddler and being in my first tri. Can anyone give me some suggestions on how to remain positive/upbeat about the situation? 
(I slept much better when I went to go visit my parents for a week and was removed from the situation. This weekend we are getting away to a cabin and I also think this will help. But I can't leave all the time!)
Re: Sellers: How to stay positive?
This was me last year! My husband as working out of state and I was sure the house would never sell.
The most important thing to keep in mind is that things can change overnight. That offer will come and you'll be on your way.
Hang in there. I can't imagine being up against all that AND selling a house.
Do what you can to feel like you have some control. Stage. Take better pictures. Host open houses. Post fliers in public places. Keep an eye on the competition to be sure you are priced right. I'll repeat the last part: Be sure you are priced right. The higher your price, the longer it will take to sell.
met DH 1995 ~ married DH 2006 ~ completed our family 2008
Life is good!
I 100% agree on the pricing right. Our neighbors across the hall, with an identical layout and also 2 garage parking spaces (as we do) sold for $20,000 over what we are asking now. They have a slightly better view of the city and had a few more renovations (like replacing the interior doors), but really that's about it.
Anyway, thanks for the thoughts and letting me vent online. It does help.
Putting our house on the market has been the most emotional roller coaster of our lives. I have two kids under two so I can definitely feel your pain. It's tough, very very tough to stay positive. So many times you can get your hopes up in this process. I wish I had advice. Our house has been on the market for a year.Try not to let it consume your life. Whatever is going to happen is going to happen. You have very little control over the situation, which was always hard for me to deal with. Also, get a plan B. What if it doesn't sell? What then? I'm OK if I know ALL of my options and have a back up plan. Good luck, hang in there. (Easier said than done, I know.)
You've got a lot going on! My H and I lived in different cities during the week during my first pregnancy. It was rough. I can't imagine having a toddler and being pregnant with him gone.
Add a house on the market, and you're bound to get down.
As far as how I'm staying positive as a seller: when we listed, we were armed with some facts. Homes in our region average 11 months on the market before sale. I had a good market analysis done, and priced well. We boxed up a lot of extra stuff (a 5 & 2 year old have a lot of stuff). And we're just being patient. We know what we'd like to get out of the house, and we know what we need to get. If we get near the 11 month mark, we'll probably lower our price. Right now, we have a healthy interest, but there's so, so, so many similar homes on the market we haven't made a match yet. I guess the bottom line is, we set our hopes/expectations by knowing how tough it is to sell right now. If we go beyond the average time, we'll be much more aggressive.
And, as someone else mentioned, any showing could produce a buyer. I hope yours comes soon.
Hang in there - it is tough to keep a house market-ready at all times - especially with little kids. I know you can't stay away always, but if your DH is gone a lot, it might help to take a 2-4 day break from it by going to visit your parents each month if you can. At least it would give you 4 days of being able to relax, get a little help with your kiddo and have someone else around to share cooking/cleaning with.
I don't know how people do it. We've been on the market 57 days and we are 14-days from taking it off the market. I am counting down the days so I can be done with the mental stress. Selling is stressful and harder than I imagined - I wish I had more advice, but we haven't sold yet.
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