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RAH =(
Im not sure what Ive told you ladies about my family and what I havent but in the last year Ive found out that my parents are divorcing, my mother is a lesbian, and that she thought she had abrain tumor and at one point she did have a blood clot in her lung. Her live in girlfriend moved a few weeks ago to NC. I havent seen my family in 2 years. My brother's 12th birthday is Oct 2. I told H I would love to go see them and celebrate his birthday. I didnt tell them yet because I havent bought the tix and I didnt want to jinx it. Tonight my mom calls and says she is really excited because she is going to visit said girlfriend in NC the weekend of my brothers birthday. We are welcome to come. So now Im sad and ticked that I didnt just tell her a few weeks ago not to make plans and yadda yadda. Each time we visit back and forth we slpit the cost so we can visit more often. She says she will be splitting her ticket cost with the girlfriend and staying at girlfriends daughters house. So we would have to fly to NC, stay in a hotel and (heres the bratty part) pay for our tix 100%
Plus Ive never met this woman or her family and I dont want to do it in the 2 days I get to see my mother and brother on his birthday for the first time in 2 yrs. I just want to be like "wahhhhhhhh" I expressed all my logic and reasoning for not wanting to go there, she said she would get back to me.
H is going to be upset when he gets home.
Re: RAH =(
Ugh, families can be such a pain sometimes. So, your mother isn't going to your brother's birthday party? Or does everyone live in NC? I hope you can find a solution that works for everyone.
BTW, my MIL divorced FIL after twenty+ years of marriage and is now into women. It's funny, because she likes women who are a lot like her ex-husband.
Ditto. Hope you guys come to a solution that works for all of you!
That whole situation sounds stressful. Sorry this is what you're dealing with.
I also agree with MD's idea. If she's had that weekend planned then that's that. I'm sure your brother would be psyched to see you ANY OTHER weekend!
Honestly I would probably just do the weekend before or after and celebrate his bday then. I'm sure he'd be just as happy to see you as well as your mom.
Because I have to agree I'm sure you guys would feel a little uncomfortable meeting the gf and the family for the first time when you're there to celebrate your brother's bday.
Now will your mom be able to afford splitting with you if you pick a different weekend being she's paying to fly to NC?
funny how that works. my BFF's dad divorced her mom and married a woman who could be her twin sister. it's so weird!!!!