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I'm cranky. This is long.
Reasons:
I have my period. And I will get in 1.5 weeks again. Wheee.
I go back to work on Wednesday. So anxious. Not as much about leaving Ava (ya right, who am I trying to kid) because she will be w/ my MIL and mother most days, but like, what is going on with my company type of anxiety (very volatile company...).
I am nervous that my convo w my boss in the AM is not going to go well re: my proposal to WFH during my transition back in, and he'll go against what he said previously. It will really up daycare for me.
And also, I hear a girl I work w/ got a new role, and I am pretty bull. So i checked my email, and the way my boss phrased it was a "a new role for name here bla bla" and not a promotion, but she now has a senior in front of her new title. This chic has been ther 14 months less than me. This makes me livid. Now, I have a senior in front of the title we both used to share, but it irks the out of me to know her role changed. I hate being caddy- it's really not my style.
I'm just nervous, anxious, pissy, and sad.
Also, I feel like MH and I are not vibing right now- mostly just the past few nights...but it's more because I feel like (er, know) I am carrying the household weight. I've spoken to him about this. He keeps saying he'll pick up slack. UmK. When.
The saving grace is I am now 10 lbs from my pre pregnancy weight and even though it's a higher number, I have gotten crazy compliments on how great I look for having a baby 11 weeks ago. At least I have that going for me right at this moment. That and little girl has STTN the past few nights (like 7-9 hours). Hopefully tonight it will continue, but my hopes are not up.
Pity party...right here.
Re: I'm cranky. This is long.
ahh - and breathe.
was there anything in writing about working from home ( even in an email ? ) maybe you could have that as a fallback/proof ?
if your boss says " no " to a WFH transition - do you have any other options ? work from home 3 days a week and go to the office 2 days a week ?
didn't J start a new business of his own ? is that f/t or p/t ? hopefully you won't be carrier of the financial weight for long ...
I hope your period doesn't cost you as much pain (cramps and such) when it comes on again. Or maybe when it comes again, it won't be on as long or it'll be light.
I really hope your boss doesn't go against what he previously said about you WFH for a little while. Do you have anything in writing with his signature, so he can't change what he said? That stinks about your coworker getting a different title. What was the reasoning behind it? I mean did she just make a lateral move since it's not a promotion? I hope it's not crazy or stressful at work once you go back.
You look great post baby!! Don't beat yourself up so much girl! Youre doing a great job at working out and being motivated to do so. I'm sure you and YH will get back on the same page soon.
((lots of hugs))
So I did put things in writing. And we discussed them. And every time I readdress, I put it in writing. My boss always wants to discuss it. I can see his point, because he's not allowed (the company does not have a formal WFH policy nor does it have a maternity leave back to work plan. So, my boss was not able to ever physically sign off, but I got verbal that we'd have me transition like 3 days in office 1.5 WFH, etc. Thing is, even if it WAS signed off on, sh!t happens in my company very quickly. But whenever I f/u I write and say things like "per our conversation" or "as we discussed" etc.
And Kate, no, he works FT at a university here. He ddoesvery little on the side of that and do not consider that work any income (the side stuff, not his f/t work). But yeah, the burden of the financial earning is mostly on me still, anyways. He wants to go back for his MBA which in the long run will help us out greatly, but that is a story for another day.
I speak to my boss at 8:45.
Maurika- Ya, I am hoping it may be a lateral move.I am going to ask bossman the reasoning. It's pisses me off I've been there 2x a long and didn't get a promotion until later. Ugh.
Exactly this.
And I hear ya on the not vibing with DH and carrying the household burden. I hope it gets better for both of us!