May 2008 Weddings
xDanniellex
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Do you say I love you to ILs?
This was brought up in a poll on another board and I thought it was interesting.
I have never said I love you to any of H's family. Too much drama and tension there. He hasn't said it to any of my family either, and I have no expectation for him to say it. Heck, he doesn't even say to his own parents.
I'm still struggling to get him to call my grandparents grandma and grandpa instead of by their first names.
Just wondering how things were for you?
Re: Do you say I love you to ILs?
I don't. MIL is deceased, FIL and his family are..... strange. I think that's a good word.I'd have no problem saying it to them, if I felt it. The only member of his family that isn't frigid is his dad's brother. He hugs me every time we visit. As for the others? meh.
J does say it to my family occassionally. My family is a lot warmer than his, so the "I love yous" are used regularly. As are hugs and well wishes.
Well we should really ask are my IL's drunk at the time or not? haha
If they are they freely say it (generally on the phone) and I will say it. Otherwise not really.
H does freely say it to all of his family though.
H will say it to my aunt in person.
I'm not sure I've ever said the words, but I sign stuff (Xmas/bday cards) "Love".
They're great, so I've no reason not to say it, other than neither of us (them or me) are particularly emotional/gushy.
Yes, not 100% of the time but I do. I always end every converstaion with my mom and brother love you.
When we were engaged I was writting out Christmas cards. Well I was just signing all of them Happy Holidays from D and B. I didn't personalize any of them. I also addressed the card to his parents Mr and Mrs on the envelope. After my MIL got it she called me out on it and said that if B's name is on the card that it should say Mom and Dad and signed Love. I replied well maybe if B took the time to write out Christmas cards he would do that. LOL Whatever... it was a silly eror. Thats what happens when you write out Christmas cards at 2am while your working night shift.
I'm not sure if B says it to my mom or not. Truthfully he doesnt say it to his parents that much. I know he doesn't say it to my Dad b/c we never talk to him.
we see them maybe once a year...they live across country. Skype every few months... They say "love u guys" when signing off... I just smile and say "bye" I won't even refer to them as MIL and FiL...they are DH's parents.. I refuse to put the words "mother and father" anywhere in referring to them...it's so far who they are to me. My dislike runs deep.
I say it back if MIL says it and I sign it in cards. I'm not sure that FIL ever says it, but I'd say it back if he did. Not that I love them so much, but I guess I just appreciate that they are the ILs I have. From all the horror stories and a past BF's mom I am SO thankful I got what I got so I'm glad to say the occasional "love you guys too" if that makes them happy.
H does say it back to my dad which is odd to me. My family is super close, but we were never really "I love you" people. My dad just started saying it a few years ago and now he says it all the time so we say it back, but I feel awkward about it. H doesn't feel odd about it though (I just asked him). He and my dad are like BFF though so that's probably why. He's way closer to my parents than I am to his. My mom doesn't really say it much, but if she did we'd say it back.
sounds like my situation. :P