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Seriously, Now??? (TDY & BR)
DH just came home from work and let me know that someone from his dept will be getting sent to Japan to help decon the ships exposed to nukes over there. They will take a voluteer of the appropriate rank, etc first...but if not, they'll pick. Granted their supposedly going to take into account that he'll have a baby due within weeks of when he'd leave...but still. Any other point in time I'd be game for him to go, heck I'd maybe even insist as it would be a good experience and good financial boost for us, but this timing is just lousy.
For right now I'm keeping my fingers crossed that someone volunteers (they just need one person) or that they don't pick him. In the back of my mind though, I'm trying to figure out what to do in terms of getting some support out here or getting myself clear across the country to where my support system is.
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BFP#3 10.2.12 (EDD 6.12.13) MMC 11.24.12 @11.5w, had passed in 7th week
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Re: Seriously, Now??? (TDY & BR)
The thing with the timing is really more that I'm getting so close to facing big travel restrictions. Yeah, it would absolutely suck to not have DH around for the birth...but a lot of military wives do it. I'm just concerned that I don't have anyone over here for support at all, let alone someone I'm close enough to to be there for delivery or the recovery at home afterwards...and if I were to drive to where my support system is (East Coast) it would be my very pregnant self and our dog probably flying solo. No idea what I'd do with the dog if I were to go into labor enroute, you know? Nobody from our support system back home has the funds or the vacation time to come hang out over here, wait for me to deliver, and then drive across with me.
Frustrating thing is that any other time I'd be game for him to go. It would be great for us financially, would help with his career & would be a good experience for him.
FX that someone from his shop volunteers and this ends up being a non-issue.
BFP#2 2.5.11 (EDD 10.15.11) DS born 9.28.11 due to Pre-E
BFP#3 10.2.12 (EDD 6.12.13) MMC 11.24.12 @11.5w, had passed in 7th week
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67/200
Fingers majorly crossed that someone else steps up or is picked.
BFP#2 2.5.11 (EDD 10.15.11) DS born 9.28.11 due to Pre-E
BFP#3 10.2.12 (EDD 6.12.13) MMC 11.24.12 @11.5w, had passed in 7th week
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I'm sorry, that really sucks if he really has to go, especially on such short notice.
My H won't be here for the birth but because we knew about it ahead of time we were able to make arrangements for my mom to fly in from overseas to be here when I go into labor. Do you have a friend nearby that can help you out?
Also, have you looked into this? I'm considering it as well.
http://www.operationspecialdelivery.com/
ETA. I shouldn't post while pregnant & tired. Run on sentence GALORE.
I only know one person in San Diego, and she has two young kids of her own. I've known her for 30 years, but we're not really close. In a pinch, I guess she'd be better than having a stranger there...but still. My MIL might be able to do a last minute flight across, but my mom (the one I'd really like there if DH can't be there) doesn't have the fundage for a last minute flight like that.
If he ends up having to go, I'm toying with the idea of asking my bff to come out. She's a SAHM, so she has the flexibility. Plus there's a good chance with him gone for months that I'd spend a good chunk of time back home so the fam could get to know this kid...and she'd be fun to do a xc trip with.
I'm also debating packing up and heading back home ASAP if we get the word he's going. Would have to get some thing lined up (place to stay, docs, etc) but it would eliminate the chaos of wondering if my support person will make it in time (my family is notorious for quick labors). Might borrow my bff for that one as well, just in case I go into labor enroute. I hate to do a trip that big this far along, but it would take out a lot of the guesswork.
BFP#2 2.5.11 (EDD 10.15.11) DS born 9.28.11 due to Pre-E
BFP#3 10.2.12 (EDD 6.12.13) MMC 11.24.12 @11.5w, had passed in 7th week
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What about you paying for your Mom to fly out? Since you'd be getting more money if he's volun-told, then it might be worth it to do that way if you're really uncomfortable at the idea of traveling that far right now.
Otherwise, I'm with you - pack up and go as early as possible if he finds out he's going. I'd rather be with my parents in their home than scrambling in a city where I don't know anyone. It will also be more pleasant for the first few days after giving birth to have a support system like that around.
Since it's volunteer, can he try to talk any of his colleagues into volunteering so he doesn't have to go? I know my FI would volunteer in a heartbeat if it meant a soon-to-be Dad could be home for the last weeks of his wife's pregnancy and be there for the birth, even if he otherwise would have preferred not to go.
BFP#2 2.5.11 (EDD 10.15.11) DS born 9.28.11 due to Pre-E
BFP#3 10.2.12 (EDD 6.12.13) MMC 11.24.12 @11.5w, had passed in 7th week
My Chart Recipe Blog
~All AL'ers welcome~