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Babies and your parents

JenCrabbe13JenCrabbe13
in North Florida Nesties

I am seriously not on this local board enough.

I see that you had a few discussions about babies. I know that your parent's opinions do not even factor in your decision, but what do your parents or in-laws thing about you just having one, none or X amount of children? Do they try to do guilt trips on you if you are not sure if you want any?

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  • MartizaMartiza
    I haven't heard anything about future children from the IL's. My parents refer to other DSs little brother/sister. No pressure from them, but they know we would like more children.
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  • mon.petit.choumon.petit.chou member
    Seventh Anniversary
    My parents and ILs haven't said anything about that yet. Probably because it's still early and they haven't yet had the chance to get disappointed by our decisions. They've actually been pretty good about not pushing for grandkids yet either, although I know they're looking forward to it.
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  • JenCrabbe13JenCrabbe13
    My mom hasn't said anything about a sibling, although she didn't say anything about having #1. I knew FIL wanted grandchildren. He mentioned that in the speech at rehersal dinner.  
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  • PantsOffDanceOffPantsOffDanceOff
    No input yet from either side on the # of kids.
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  • dollfinn19dollfinn19
    My mom is the only one who's really said anything.  I was saying something about the future and she replied "uh huh, but you haven't mentioned where #2 fits in there."  I just kinda looked at her like "I know."  And she gave me a "not uh" and look of shock.  We've been open about our "one and done" theory.  But, I guess people think we're kidding. 
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  • jenhappyjenhappy
    Both mom and MIL have made it clear that they would be thrilled if we had kid(s), but no real pressure. MIL is content for now with her "granddog," and I can stifle any of my mom's attempts to bring it up by reminding her that if I got pregnant down here, we would likely never be able to move back up there.
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  • Mrs_W_PookieMrs_W_Pookie

    I definitely got the guilt trip after having DD and going through PPD/A and saying that I thought I didn't want to have any more children.  I was told "That's not fair to DD, you can't do that!"  What about my mental well-being?

    I've since changed my mind about having just one, but still.

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  • Mrs_W_PookieMrs_W_Pookie

    imagedollfinn19:
    My mom is the only one who's really said anything.  I was saying something about the future and she replied "uh huh, but you haven't mentioned where #2 fits in there." 

    No worries about getting through the pregnancy and birth of #1, right?  Just go ahead and start planning the next one Indifferent

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  • MaryJaneWatzMaryJaneWatz
    My mom and MIL are both very happy with our decision to wait, they both say they're too young to be a grandma. DH's extended family has been planning our children since we were dating.
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  • LanerbellLanerbell
    Third Anniversary
    With my X, my parents did not want me to have a baby and probably would've been pissed if I did because he was a douche. Now, OTOH, my mom talks off handedly about babies all time. Stuff like her house will never be baby proof so she'll have to move, yes she'll babysit every not and then, stuff like that. All of this hinges though on me meeting and marrying a guy she likes. She does get mad though when I say I want to be one and done. She thinks I missed out since I don't have siblings.
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  • chinchilla fiestachinchilla fiesta member
    Third Anniversary
    My mom feels that having more than 2 kids is socially irresponsible so she definently thinks we should limit it. She also is the one pushing us to wait for a while before having any. No one in my family has asked us when we're going to have kids actually.
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  • nikipizzonikipizzo
    My mom has made cute comments about her future grandkids, but no real pressure from either side.  Although, I think if we were to outright tell them that we decided not to have children, both sides would begin to put the pressure on and try to get us to re-think things.
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  • duncanpowersduncanpowers
    They haven't given us a hard time per se, but they have mentioned it 'casually' enough times for it not to be casual. Oddly, his mother hasn't said a word and I'm happy for that. His dad and stepmom and my mom have all talked about our second child as if it's a given, which it isn't.
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  • Kristin&AdamKristin&Adam
    We got a lot of pressure from my family (mostly my dad and a handful of aunts) about having another baby after B turned 1, and they specifically wanted a girl.  It was REALLY annoying.
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