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MrsJaay
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Babyless Poll
Who's still out there?
Do you have a timeline for when you will TTC or are you not having kids?
If you do plan to have kids, what are you waiting for (just plain not ready, too young, money, travel, more time as a couple, etc.)?
Do most of your friends have kids already?
Do you feel any pressure to procreate from anyone right now?
ETA: I didn't mean to offend any who are currently TTC. You're welcome to answer but I originally thought of people who don't have kids, aren't pregnant, and aren't TTC.
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Re: Babyless Poll
Do you have a timeline for when you will TTC or are you not having kids? This is our first month actually "trying". Last month was supposed to be, but then DH was gone on trip during O time.
If you do plan to have kids, what are you waiting for (just plain not ready, too young, money, travel, more time as a couple, etc.)? We were waiting to save up money and also enjoying being just us, and doing what we want when we want.
Do most of your friends have kids already? I have two groups of friends. In one group, of my 5 girlfriends, only myself and one other don't have kids yet. Of my other group of 5 girlfriends, only one has kids.
Do you feel any pressure to procreate from anyone right now? EVERYONE! Family, friends you name it. Fortunately, we are ready too
Do you have a timeline for when you will TTC or are you not having kids? Not really, it changes from month to month. I would say the earliest would be next Summer or Winter maybe?
If you do plan to have kids, what are you waiting for (just plain not ready, too young, money, travel, more time as a couple, etc.)? I guess all of the above. It was easy to make that list in parentheses lol. Also add sleep in there too. I like my sleep.
Do most of your friends have kids already? None of my friends have kids yet except one.
Do you feel any pressure to procreate from anyone right now? I don't really feel pressure but both sides of the family will be so excited. My sister gives me the sad sad speech about how the cousins won't grow up together if I don't get on it at least once a week
Do you have a timeline for when you will TTC or are you not having kids? Dh and I actually discussed possibly starting next fall/winter. Who knows if that plan will stick once that time comes around. When we got married - we said 4-5 years. Next fall will be 4.5 years. Eeeeek.
If you do plan to have kids, what are you waiting for (just plain not ready, too young, money, travel, more time as a couple, etc.)? There is so much up in the air with selling our house, etc. We are also just really enjoying being just the two of us. We can do whatever we want, whenever we want. we are not quite ready to "settle down."
Do most of your friends have kids already? The majority of them don't. One of my good friends from HS is currently pregnant. Dh's good friend from college has twins. That's about it.
Do you feel any pressure to procreate from anyone right now? A bit, yeah. Our parents are starting to drop (not so) subtle hints.
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I'm still here!!
Do you have a timeline for when you will TTC or are you not having kids? We are going to start trying next month...eep!!
If you do plan to have kids, what are you waiting for (just plain not ready, too young, money, travel, more time as a couple, etc.)? I was waiting on moeny and job stability (I want to get the FMLA time at this job). I'm at the point where I don't believe we're ever going to feel completely financially ready for a kid, we're just going to have to jump in. Every time we have a little saved we start bleeding again. Oh well, such is life for young professionals. I also wanted more "carefree" time but I'm getting to the point where staying at home with DH is more fun to me than a night at the bar.
Do most of your friends have kids already? Friends from college - yes. Local friends and friends from law school - no. Friends from high school - half and half.
Do you feel any pressure to procreate from anyone right now? My husband
And oddly enough, my sister. Her and her husband waited four years after marriage before getting pregnant, and detested having all the pressure. About a month ago, she was talking to DH and I and said "We're planning on having another baby next summer. And we think you guys should have one too. Really, its high time you had a baby." Oh, gee, thanks sister. Exactly the go-ahead I needed. 
Also, I will say there is fertility pressure. Based on my family history, there's a good chance I will have a significant fertility drop in my early thirties versus after thirty-five. I'm twenty-seven and a half now. I know I want kids someday. So if we don't have them soon, we will be taking a huge gamble with my fertility. And the guilt of not giving DH children (what he wants more than anything in the world) because I waited too long would probably be too much strain for our marriage to bear. So, its sort of a now-or-maybe-never internal pressure as well.
Yeah!
Do you have a timeline for when you will TTC or are you not having kids? we'll be TTC next summer.
If you do plan to have kids, what are you waiting for (just plain not ready, too young, money, travel, more time as a couple, etc.)? I finish my masters next May, and then we'll take one last childless vacation together.
Do most of your friends have kids already? I have about 10 close friends, and about half of them have at least one child. The other half do not.
Do you feel any pressure to procreate from anyone right now? Nope, except for myself. Sometimes I'll have a day or a week and say screw it - let's start trying now! But then I come to reality, realizing that work and school do not allow time for a baby right now.
Do you have a timeline for when you will TTC or are you not having kids? Next year at some point... (see next question)
If you do plan to have kids, what are you waiting for (just plain not ready, too young, money, travel, more time as a couple, etc.)? We put it off for at least a year so I could have my jaw surgery done. Once that's over, we plan on starting to try. Right now we are tentative with jaw surgery to be in January...then I just have to be healed up enough for some sexy time, I guess.
Do most of your friends have kids already? No - I think they are all trying though. Both of our closest friend have been on extravagant babymoons in the last year... ours is going to be romantic milkshakes in bed with my jaw wired shut. I think it'll be my husbands version of heaven since I won't be able to back talk him. :-D
Do you feel any pressure to procreate from anyone right now? No, not really. My parents have a grandbaby and his parents - well, they never say anything except for how big my husband's head was when he was born. That seems more like they are trying to talk me out of it.
Who's still out there? ME
Do you have a timeline for when you will TTC or are you not having kids? Not having kids. I already have 22 little ones at work!
If you do plan to have kids, what are you waiting for (just plain not ready, too young, money, travel, more time as a couple, etc.)? N/A
Do most of your friends have kids already? It's about half and half. It seems like some circles have a ton, and some not at all.
Do you feel any pressure to procreate from anyone right now? No, thank goodness!
ETA: I didn't mean to offend any who are currently TTC. You're welcome to answer but I originally thought of people who don't have kids, aren't pregnant, and aren't TTC.
Do you have a timeline for when you will TTC or are you not having kids? Kind of. Originally, we said after Paul's PhD program (summer of 2014), when he'll be 30 and I'll be 28. But recently we've been talking about having "one more adventure" before settling down. After he graduates, we'd love to live in New York, London, even Sydney for a few years before settling down with kids. That puts us closer mid-2017 before we even start trying.
If you do plan to have kids, what are you waiting for (just plain not ready, too young, money, travel, more time as a couple, etc.)? Um... all of the above? When Paul graduates, his income will be approximately 6 times what it is now, so money is definitely a consideration. I'm still in the beginning of my career, and would like to establish myself better before having kids. We like the freedom to do stuff at a moment's notice, travel (Hawaii and Italy are both in the plans for the next few years), and we love hanging out just the two of us. Also, I'd like to own a home in a quiet neighborhood before kids, and right now we're loving city living. The reasons go on and on.
Do most of your friends have kids already? No, none. In the high school friends group, 3 of 5 of us are married, in the college friends group only 2 of the 5 of us are married. I don't think anyone is even thinking about kids right now - we're all just starting out in our careers. Paul and I are also the only married ones among our siblings.
Do you feel any pressure to procreate from anyone right now? Not at all. Our parents are not eager to be grandparents anytime soon. At least, my mom isn't. She says she's too young
. My IL haven't mentioned anything, but since none of our sibs are even married, I don't think anyone's in a rush. Plus, it'd be a bonus if our kids weren't so much older than their cousins, so we'll give our siblings a chance to catch up, haha.
Do you have a timeline for when you will TTC or are you not having kids? We have talked about it almost every summer, but this coming summer is feeling right.
If you do plan to have kids, what are you waiting for (just plain not ready, too young, money, travel, more time as a couple, etc.)? A combination: not ready, more travel, and my job (which btw is the best birth control on earth)...
Do most of your friends have kids already? Yes. I am the only one out of 15 ladies in my grade level who doesn't have children. Most of those ladies are my friends that I hang out with outside of work.
Do you feel any pressure to procreate from anyone right now? Sometimes, I feel it from DH. MIL mentioned a few months ago that FIL told her to ask when we were gonna give him a grand baby (BIL already has 2 kids and is younger than us). She acted irritated and "scolded" him for even asking, telling him that we would when we were ready. For the most part, our family/friends are supportive of our decision to wait.
Who's still out there? Me!
Do you have a timeline for when you will TTC or are you not having kids? We're planning on starting to try next summer.
If you do plan to have kids, what are you waiting for (just plain not ready, too young, money, travel, more time as a couple, etc.)? Finances are the biggest issue. We both got raises this year, so things are better and we're hoping to both get raises again next year before starting to TTC. Daycare is expensive.
Do most of your friends have kids already? No, but two are PG now and another is TTC, so it's possible that by next year I could be in the minority as the one with no kids.
Do you feel any pressure to procreate from anyone right now? A little from my friends who are pg because we work together and I see them every day. They keep trying to get me to join the club. Our families have been pressuring us since we got married, so it comes from that angle too.
Sorry I'm late to the game, I worked the last 3 days. But I'm pretty sure I will be one of the last ones here without kids!
Do you have a timeline for when you will TTC or are you not having kids? Probably 3ish years out. I need to be done with school and an end in sight for DH.
If you do plan to have kids, what are you waiting for (just plain not ready, too young, money, travel, more time as a couple, etc.)? Time to care for a kid. We are emotionally ready but we are just too busy with school and life right now. I will just spoil my nieces.
Do most of your friends have kids already? Yeah... lots of babes! I have had almost all my friends have kids in the last year. Some are on their second! The problem is I'm about 5 years younger than most of my friends. I do feel a little left behind
Do you feel any pressure to procreate from anyone right now? Dh's parents couldn't careless what we are doing, they are pretty hands off grandparents. My parents feel too young and my mom is really rooting for me to finish my MSN before kids (I think she is living vicariously through me).