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Passive-aggressiveness vent
I have a good relationship with H's parents (and so does he), but every once in awhile, his mom is annoyingly passive aggressive. She posted this as her status an hour ago "This time last week I was so excited and looking forward to seeing the inside of J an K's new house, well they got the keys alright but ............we still have not gotten to see the house!! Oh well, thats life I guess."
My response probably wasn't the best, but I wrote back " I don't know how you can get IN the house, you said the stairs are too steep. Still trying to figure that out. 
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Today is the FIFTH. We received our keys on the 31st in the evening. In that time, the only people who have seen it is my cousin who needed to see the place to help decide if she wanted to rent a room from us, and my Dad and his wife who stopped by yesterday for maybe an hour.
Devil's advocate is that they gave us the down payment money, so in that I feel a little bad. BUT, she hasn't said a single thing to us..this is the first complaint I've heard, which is what ticks me off. And the other side IS that when we put the offer on the house, H's parents stopped by and MIL wanted to peek in the windows, but couldn't get up the front or back steps. She said they're too steep. While they are a tad steeper than normal stairs, she has big difficulty with even normal stairs. I mean, what are we supposed to do about that? We do plan on rebuilding the front steps to have a longer run so that the rise is manageable for her, but we don't have time to do that yet. We have to move first so we can stop paying for our apartment!
GRRRRR....I'm just frustrated. If she's feeling all hurt, she should have said something to us directly, not b!tch about it all over FB. Besides, what ARE we supposed to do about it? (Urgh, and she just replied to a friend who made a joke about it that "the stairs aren't impossible yet")
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yikes, i probably would have thought your response but not said anything.
My grandma is the saaaaame way and it's the most annoying sh!t ever.
i think your best bet is to invite them to see it.. if she gets there and can't get in, whatcha gonna do?
the best you can do is make sure the offer is on the table, you can't control the rest.
Another reason not to friend parents on FB!
If you want to keep with the passive aggressiveness, I suppose you could post pictures of the interior of the house on FB.
I think she's being petty - either she chooses to give the stairs a shot or she shuts her mouth.
Exactly this.
this.
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I emailed H to let him know and he responded, oh, so THAT'S why she kept offering to "help" move stuff this weekend. Why didn't she just ASK or SAY something?(They're old and not in good physical health, they can't help carry anything and she just wants to talk and get in the way.)
He's going to call them tonight and ask if they want to come see the house tomorrow night. I mean, geez, why can't people just simply ASK? The reason my dad saw it yesterday was because he had left me a message asking if I could give a call next time we were going out to the house so they could try and stop by. Simple question = simple answer!
SIGH.
this!!!