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Am I being irrational? Updated: Irritated.
I called and left a message for my doctor at 8:30 this morning about getting in for bloodwork. They called back at 2, when I didn't have my phone and I had to call back. You always get routed to the voicemail and then the nurse calls back. I don't usually mind, because the nurse usually consults doctor before calling and has answers. Well this time they need to chat with me before putting in my lab order. So now I won't get the blood work until tomorrow. Should I be annoyed or am I being irrational? Maybe I want a new doctor. I'd like to get a human on the other end of the line.
Update: So the office called back and she told me they don't do labs unless it is warranted and had I had cramps or spotting? (apparently a previous miscarriage means nothing) I said yes, which isn't a lie I do have cramps and I had brown spotting on Sunday (I blame sex Friday). She was like, oh well we can put in an order for some labs to get done. And then she said that my first appt with the NP would be 9/20. Apparently they lied previously when I was told I would be monitored more closely the second time, because of the miscarriage. AND had I had earlier blood work the last time I wouldn't have been 9 weeks pregnant and having a misscarriage. We would have either known it wasn't viable earlier or I would have had progesterone supplements and I would have a toddler now. I hung up the phone and burst into tears. That's a good sign right? Crying over little things?
Looks like I'll be finding a new doctor.
Re: Am I being irrational? Updated: Irritated.
Midwife! :-)
I don't know the normal protocol for that stuff so I can't tell you whether or not you're being irrational. But, like you, I always prefer to talk with a human so I always tend to go for small and personal practices. I LOVED being able to talk to a midwife or NP every time I called.
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I always get a phone call back that day and usually it is within an hour or so. I would be very annoyed with the "24 hour" policy. I try to understand, but I want the bloodwork done asap. I am trying to stay calm and just assume that things are just baking away happily.
I totally understand. I am trying to just relax and go with the flow. I had an appointment with the doctor today as a follow up to my clomid, so the timing worked really well and I got to talk to her for a minute about things. I told her I was nervous because I have been having dull cramps all weekend and yesterday and today as well. There are also a few random sharp pains thrown in there. She told me it sounded like implantation cramping, which is a good thing, but I am just so freaking nervous!
My Dr. has a policy that they don't call you if everything is normal. I would probably feel different in your shoes though. I would also get a call back within the hour most of the time. If they thought it was high risk, they called put you through immediately (like when my BP was a consistent 165/110). If you're not happy with your office, it is a perfect time to change. I didn't like my OB much, but I loved the other doctors in the practice. Only problem was when it came time to deliver, I had never met the doctor before (although the doc I LOVE stayed an hour late to find out what the gender was).
I guess I'm saying if you're not happy, change now. I wish I could take awesome Doc to a private practice, but since that isn't happening, I'll take the good with the bad.
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However, I made one phone call to my doctor to schedule an appointment then wasn't seen until 10 weeks - I never had bloodwork of any kind done to confirm pregnancy. . .
That is how things typically work at my doctor too, but because I am considered at a higher risk with the miscarriage history, I should be seen earlier etc.
This was the same for me, except my first appointment was at 12 weeks, despite having had one c/p & a m/c prior.
But I agree with everyone else; if you're not happy with the way your doc's office handles things, this is definitely the time to change. Things will only get more stressful from here if you don't feel that you're getting the care you need now. Good luck!
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It's not "normal" I don't think for docs to consider 1 miscarriage high risk. But' since you had bloodwork done and know the cause, it wouldn't hurt to test. Many women have multiple miscarriages before they are considered high risk.
I didn't know this until college, and obviously this is probably not your case, but my Developmental Biology teacher told me that more than half of women have at least 1 miscarriage before they ever know they are pregnant, and they never knew they were pregnant before. The rates are just that high. I look at it from a biological perspective, which I hope doesn't sound insensitive. Miscarriage can be the body's way of saying that something it way wrong and it needs to just start over and try again (often because of chromosomal abnormalities or mismatches during fertilization). If the baby were to survive, it would most likely have severe problems.
I don't mean to imply that I would never love a child with disabilities, but we all hope for a healthy baby when we find out we're pregnant. And, of course, we are all (and I would be too) devastated if we find our we are/have miscarrying/ed. I don't mean to make light of that.
But I said all of the previous to reinforce why most doctors don't do much to intervene before 12 weeks- they see it as unfortunate but natural, and sometimes better.
I do agree with pps that if you think your doctor isn't listening, you should change now. I refuse to see someone who won't listen to what I have to say. We know our bodies better than anyone else, and regardless of what medicine says, we know what's normal and abnormal for ourselves.
FWIW, my office works the same way... call, leave a message, someone calls you back within 4 hours, then they go from there.
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