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skinny or fat??
would your husband love you more or less if you got skinnier or fatter than you are now?
we're having twins!
Re: skinny or fat??
He says I was too skinny at our wedding (liar) and that I'm at a good weight now (4lbs more than what I'm happy at) and I've told him that if I ever hit a certain weight then he can divorce me.
ETA: So I guess that means that he had to love me when he thought I was too skinny, is stuck with me when I'm the right weight and can leave me when I get too heavy?
answering with my pre pg body..........
he encourages me to lose weight, and i know he'd think i'm sexier..but he loves me regardless. his amount of love wouldn't change, but the amount of sexual attraction, i'm sure would be stronger if i was a bit skinnier. he likes big bewbs though..and if i lose weight, i know those will go. he's mentioned before that he'd rather have me meaty with big bewbs than small bewbw and thin.
♥ bfp1 06/14/2011 ♥ edd 02/22/2012 ♥
♥ baby jennlin born on 02/15/2012 ♥
who says you can only wear your wedding dress once?
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jumped ship to the new and improved nest. back to TB for baby boards.
i had this convo with multiple people at work, men and women, and the verdict was most people said yes.
men said they think that skinnier is sexy. women said they think their husbands would love them more if they were skinnier.
question is, do men, or what percentage of men stop thinking their wives are less sexy when they gain weight.. even if it's after having a baby or what have you.
so i asked h. he loved me at low 200s and high 300s. i'm now in between there and he says he loves me just the same. he does say that i get sexier with age. am i just lucky?
this is what i hope most of those meant.. but who knows.
indeed.
my h says this too. i show him pictures every so often when i was "skinny", and i said look how pretty i was..and he said i looked like a child (even though i was 19 or so) and he said i look much better now.
i think he is just trying to make sure he still gets some. but whatevz.
♥ bfp1 06/14/2011 ♥ edd 02/22/2012 ♥
♥ baby jennlin born on 02/15/2012 ♥
who says you can only wear your wedding dress once?
honeymoon bio ♥ married bio ♥ planning bio
jumped ship to the new and improved nest. back to TB for baby boards.
i didn't even think of this. i do the exact same thing! lol. we're funny.
DH has seen my roller-coaster of weight loss over the years. DH was invited to my first wedding - I dropped from a size 12 to a 8 for the wedding - I was miserable and wouldn't tell anyone. My ex-H made me feel like ***. (Prior to meeting him/moving in together I as a solid 6/8)
I left ex-H and got really depressed and hated life and got to a size 6.
DH knew me this whole time - he'd seen the ups and downs. During my divorce i teeter-toddered back and forth.
DH continuously tells me how beautiful I am and how he loves me. I'm a 14 now - have been since before our wedding in 2009.
I guess as long as he's still frisky and meeting me in the hallway and the kitchen and down for a quickie - I'm going to assume he still thinks I'm hot?
(That being said, we both know we should pay more attention to our weight.)
I don't think so, but I've never asked him.
Personally if you love someone more or less because they are skinny or fat it makes me wonder.. because you should love the person for who they are "personality wise" not because of how they look or what they weigh. That being said I can see that looks do play a role!
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#2-BFP 08-6-11 ~ Due 04/18 ~ born via c-section April 22, 2012
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My husband would love me just the same. Would he find me sexually attractive if I were fatter? Probably not. But he's not a fan of superskinny women, anyway, so I'm kind of "safe" in that regard.
BFP 1/22/12 | Ectopic pregnancy found 2/14/12 | Methotrexate to complete m/c 2/15/12
This.
He also really likes skimpy lingerie, and so whatever weight I am at that makes me comfortable wearing that a lot. ;p
Koosh!!!! wha??????
you're visiting us?? how nice!
I guess maybe it makes me sad because I feel like women are more accepting when men gain weight. I really would hate to think that my husband wouldn't love me as much or be as sexually attracted to me if i gain weight back...
I feel like it's more the douchy guys who aren't accepting.
And actually, seeing some of the comments from girls on the GIS shape board on the knot really piss me off sometimes. Like, my husband has gained 15 pounds, I'm "concerned about his health." Bull.
oh lawd.
DH prefers some "extra cushion for the pushin." But, I had lost about 70 pounds and he was loving that, then gained it back and I'm slowly working on losing again. But he loves me at any weight and is always, literally ALWAYS, sexually attracted to me.
DH is definitely not overweight at all, but both his parents died in their early 50's, their is diabetes in his family (and several premature diabetes-realted deaths) and DH has had really had blood pressure (even though young and not overweight). So, he's gained 15-20 pounds and has a beer belly, and I am legitimately concerned about his health. I know it's not a lot of weight but with everything, it concerns me and I wish he'd work on it. I realize this sounds totally hyprocritical.
this and that. we're lucky.